They say Chicago is the windiest city of them all
But after this weekend, I beg to differ.
Can you blame me?
I hope you had an amazing Easter (if you celebrate)
I had a nice lunch with the rents
And wore this colorful dress and fun heels
But I’m actually here to talk about taking a “time out”
Last week, I took a break from the gym because my whole routine had gone “Gone Baby Gone“
I was very upset and I didn’t know what I was doing wrong
I needed to step out of my routine, so I could look at it from a different perspective
Taking time off sometimes can be the greatest thing you can do
Because it allows you to think clearer
In my case, I discovered some of the reasons why living a healthy lifestyle all of a sudden wasn’t pleasurable for me
It felt like so much work and so much stress
And instead of feeling great about myself for taking care of my health, I was feeling quite the opposite
I was feeling down all the time. I felt like a failure.
And then, finally, after a week off from feeling shitty- something clicked!
I was focusing too much on the wrong things
And I bet you, you can relate to some of it
Here are some of the things I was focusing on:
-Weighing myself everyday after waking up
-Looking for body improvements everyday
-Not giving myself a break, ever
-Overly discussing my fitness goals in my relationship
Gahh.. Ok, I won’t lie. Reading what I just typed is making me depressed.
That’s how terrible all those things were to me.
I know, if you’ve been working out for years and you got this healthy lifestyle down.
You might want to weigh yourself. Because you already look fantastic, so those numbers won’t phase you.
To me, since it’s so new. Those numbers were devastating.
They were affirmation that nothing I was doing was working or at least that’s how I saw it when everyday, nothing would change..
So for now, I’m staying away from the scale and focusing on how I feel, on the positives.
I want to focus on how my energy level is, on lifting heavier.
And less on looking in the mirror and stepping on a scale.
Looking in the mirror to see “what’s changed” is a horrific way to start your day
Instead, we should love our bodies for what they are right now
Own your body, your look.
Going forward, I will no longer look for changes. But be grateful for the body I do have.
Overly discussing/sharing my goals in my relationship was a mistake
This is obviously my personal experience
But to me, it started out great until it became negative
The message I kept hearing was, “You are not giving it your all, that’s why you’re not seeing results”
And that’s pretty shitty to hear from someone you care about
Sometimes, we need to hear tough love from our partners
But when it’s constant, you start feeling down and even worse, you start feeling let down
This was my mistake for trying to look for affirmation from anyone but me
I should be my biggest cheerleader.
So starting now, I’m my biggest cheerleader.
Some of these are pretty personal but I felt like many of us can relate.
We often times don’t give ourselves enough credit
And look for others to do it for us
We let ourselves down and many times don’t even understand why
It’s important to stop and think about what’s making us unhappy
That’s the only way you can improve your life, and your well-being.
I hope this post was helpful.
Let me know if you ever had an “AH-HA!” moment like the above, and what you’ve uncovered by digging deep =)