World Mental Health Day: My story

Today is World Mental Health Day

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Did you know 1 in 5 Adults have a mental health condition?

Youth health is also worsening, and 80% of them are left with no or insufficient treatment

When I was about eleven years old, I moved to the U.S. with my parents and six-year-old brother

We moved here with nothing but the clothes we had on

Everything and everyone we knew were a 12 hour flight away

We also didn’t speak the language or know much about this new culture

My dad’s third cousin which he had never met, helped us by giving us shelter at her place for three months

In those three months, she made our lives living hell.

She wouldn’t let us look out the window or leave the house

She’d say we would get deported back home if we stepped outside

We had a VISA to stay at the time but didn’t know any better

This was a new world for us, and the most vulnerable we’ve ever been

Then, my parents finally found a place to rent and found a job

That was when I was left alone to take care of my six-year-old brother for the first time in my life

Soon I started having anxiety and panic attacks

I remember feeling my heart beating so fast I thought it was going to explode

I felt like I was going to die

I can’t explain the awful feeling I felt many nights a week and how many calls my mom had to take from me

My poor mom had to talk me out of a panic attack every call

Until finally, it started to not be so bad

But I still deal with anxiety to this day. And thanks to my amazing mom’s support, I no longer have panic attacks

The reason I’m sharing this is because I’m not ashamed to be human

And neither should you be

Talk about it with a loved one today or write about it, if you are still not 100% “there”

But get it out of your system

Look for help.

I hesitated to see someone for so long, and there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that

I believe that even those that have no issues or think they don’t, SHOULD still see someone

We can all improve our mental health, no matter what state it is in

Most of us had some sort of traumatic event happen in our lives

Whether it was a death in the family, a huge lifestyle change like mine, a bad break up, you name it!

It’s almost impossible to go through life without a scar

But scars are what make us beautiful, they make us human, they make us who we are

And it’s only once we own up to them, that we can move forward to live a beautiful life

I hope you found some comfort in my story

Feel free to email me directly to share yours at tali@fearordinary.com, or comment below

You are not alone.

Yours Truly,

Talita

Fall Look 2017: Raw

                     

Hi there babes!

Holy shit, it’s been a minute- I want to apologize for the inconsistency with the blog

I took a good chunk of time off to figure out how I can be my true-raw-self and deliver only quality stuff

So for the time being, I will not be working with any clothing companies unless I already buy from them

I want everyone to see how they can still get creative with the stuff in their closet, by mixing and matching

Or by simply buying one new piece, instead of a whole new outfit for a night.

We’ll start with this outfit I’m wearing.

Shoes and shades are from Marshalls, less than $40 combined.

I love Marshalls because you never know what kind of gem you will find there.

Also note, location is key with this store. Each location carries something different (go to a fancy town near you).

Okay, but maybe you are truly interested in this off-shoulder bodysuit (if you’re my friend, you are tired of seeing it)

I got this baby at Forever21 ! >>Here’s a link<< to an off-shoulder look they have

I bought mine in the store and can’t find it online. However, they have many other beautiful ones to choose from.

P.S. This jacket is also from there. I’ve had it for YEARS and every time I wear it, I get compliments on it.

Now let’s talk sexy pencil skirt because every woman should own one

I got this beauty at Charlotte Russe. And lucky for you, I found it and it’s on SALE for $16!

CLICK HERE to check this amazing deal out.

All my life, I’ve dealt with snobby as* btchs that would lie about where they got their outfits from

So I LOVE to be able to share my fashion “secrets” with you

The secret is, there is NONE (at least not with me!).

I like to look good and stack cash, no “bloody shoes” needed. But thanks Nicki Minaj.

P.S.S. I can’t write this without sharing a little personal note. My godmother passed away today.

I’m extremely saddened by it and by what happened in Vegas yesterday. Truly devastating.

I hope everyone truly sees life as a gift because tomorrow certainly isn’t promised

Be safe out there and don’t forget to be grateful for waking up to live another day.

 

Yours Truly,

Talita