New Years Resolution 2018: How to accomplish your goals

New Years Resolution 2018

 Every year, most of us come up with a list of goals we want to accomplish

But many of us never follow through

So how do we make sure 2018 is different?

What keeps us from accomplishing our goals?

Are our goals too unrealistic?

Last year, my goal was to get in shape before 30

I give myself a C- for trying

A+ for meal prepping all year round

F for planning my workouts

D for consistency

This year, I’m not adding anything new to the plan

I’m simply accomplishing what I couldn’t last year

And I’m doing it by noting what went wrong.

Ex: I meal prepped every week. But ate whatever I wanted on weekends.

So this year, I will plan my weekends better.

As far as consistency, I know with school & work.. I can’t overwhelm myself

Therefore, I will work out on Saturdays, Sundays, and twice during the week

Knowing this will help me gain control over my week (less anxiety)

In order for your resolution to be successful, you must know why it failed to begin with!

You must understand the things you need to work on

And finally, put a plan in place to make sure you don’t make the same mistakes

It’s honestly THAT easy!

Be realistic and honest with yourself this year

Don’t add new goals to an existing list, unless you’ve reached all your 2017 goals

Lastly, don’t be too hard on yourself about last year’s goals

With everything we do, there is a lesson learned

This year, you are wiser and better prepared

Believe in yourself, and go after it!


Less is more: Shop Smart

Raise your hand if you like to shop!

*hands and feet in the air*

Lately, however, I’ve been very cautious with my money

I feel it’s 10x more important to have cash in the bank than to wear a brand name

This weekend, I was talking to a girlfriend of mine about it

We both went out to eat at Papagayo (Assembly Row) and then decided to check out some stores

We didn’t really make it to store #2

Mainly because we are so used to shopping online

Who has the time and patience to wait in line, look for that specific dress or shirt out of the 100 other items?

It’s just a huge waste of time

The dress below took me 10 minutes to find. It was night time, I was in my pjs ready for bed…

Not to mention I paid PEANUTS for it!

Click HERE for the link, if you want to check it out for yourself 🙂

The material isn’t the greatest, to be very honest. But the dress looks INCREDIBLE on and is SUPER in.

For the money you are paying to purchase it, it’s a great buy

It’s also playful and fun, but the color is what got me

If you have a nice tan, this color is crazy flattering

I got a size M, and it fits like a glove. I found it to be true to size

Also, be ready to iron it- it will need it 🙂

Moral of the story: You don’t need to pay a million bucks to look and feel like a million bucks

Don’t fall for what you see online. Girls often wear expensive things to feel better about themselves

If you are confident, you don’t need to make big purchases to feel beautiful. You know you already are!

Besides, what’s truly important is what’s within.

Too many beautiful girls have a terrible personality. And that can only get them so far.

Be kind, be genuine, work on being your best version- the rest will follow.


If you missed the link above, CLICK HERE to check out details on this dress.


Have a wonderful week!



How to Accept REAL happiness?

Let’s talk about what’s real at Fear Ordinary.


Online, we see so much “real” happiness, “real” relationships, “real” moments.

But how real are they really?

A BIG part of the reason many people are depressed today is due to social media.

Social media perceives this image of, what shall I call it? Perfection?

Everyone’s lives online is perfect, right?


Think about the stuff you post.

Are they of you having a mini break down after a long work week?

Are any of them of you arguing with your boyfriend about xyz?

Or of your kids acting up?

I didn’t think so.

The first step to truly feeling 200% comfortable in your own life..

is to stop comparing your life to others.

Back in the day, people compared their lives to their neighbors.

Today, people compare it to a complete stranger on instagram or facebook.

How crazy is that?

It’s hard not to compare your life to others but you must accept that your journey

is different from John Smith’s, so is your destiny and your gift(s).


Learn to LOVE your life by making time to do the things you love

I love to travel (so I make plans to have at least 1 big trip every year)

I love to look great (so I make time to workout and eat healthy)

I love NATURE, so I always try to be outdoors.

The above automatically makes me happy.

What makes you happy?

It also helps to plan your time spent online.

I know of people who can’t enjoy a day with their loved ones without

checking their phones CONSTANTLY

You don’t want to be online all day and night..

Not having a productive day makes you feel down

Not being present is something you will regret

Not to mention, an unproductive day is a day wasted.

Instead, go out there and make your day GREAT

And if life gets in the way, try again!!

Find your motivation

Find your drive

Your life goal

FOCUS on YOUR happiness

Not someone else’s.

Aside from the above, here are some basic things that

has been proven to make most people live a better life:

  1. Sleep
  2. Comfortable Income Stream
  3.  Exercise
  4. Eat Healthy

No shit, right? haha! They are obvious and some I’ve mentioned before.

But it’s good for us to take a moment to remind ourselves.


Hope you had an amazing 4th of July weekend.

Above are some pictures from mine.

This week my focus is my happiness. 

Because we all need a reminder of what’s important. 😉

Hope you enjoy my “Sunday Night Thoughts”

Happy Living! xx



Today’s “Normal” isn’t Normal: Find Your Happiness; Escape The Trap

Hey lovelies! V-day weekend is over. On my previous post, I was talking about being very much against it, for the reasons I had listed and still agree with. However, I will have to admit, it was quite nice to have a special day to celebrate “us.” 

In a world full of distractions and selfishness, it’s nice to focus on that special someone that you love. And to do something nice for them (not that this shouldn’t be something you do often).

What did you ladies do with your boo this weekend? Anything special? Did you try any of the recipes on my previous post? (Please share!)

A nice gesture when hanging out with your significant other is practicing to put your phones away. It’s not easy. Everyone carries their phones on them at all times and have notifications going off every second to remind them that the phone “needs” their attention. You have another “like” on Instagram, you have a “new comment” on Facebook, or your team just scored. YOU MUST LOOK AT THE PHONE IMMEDIATELY! Right?! Wrong. It’s not a life or death situation, it can wait. Enjoy your “now” moment. Be present.


Although, it’s great that we can communicate with the world through social media, it’s also something that has trapped us from truly living our lives. We don’t experience things fully anymore because we are too consumed by social media & its distractions.

Most people spend 80% of their day looking at their phones, communicating with anyone that is not in front of them. And by the way, if they do get a person in front of them- they have a hard time communicating face-to-face because they forgot how to have a “real” conversation that doesn’t involve typing “LOL” or “IDGAF.” If you have a hard time picking up the phone & calling a friend to speak to them, or if you can’t go out to dinner and have a conversation for an hour without  your phone, then you have fallen for this trap.

Get out of it. As quickly as possible, for your own sake. 

Start truly living your life & making great memories that you will remember, regardless of having taken pictures or not. Regardless, of “checking in” or not, regardless of posting your pictures online or not.

Life is to be lived by experiences, feelings, touching, talking. Not through texting & liking others photos or statuses.

Here’s what I have done so far to help improve my lifestyle (and it’s only the beginning).

Deleted Facebook since 11/15

Best decision I have ever made. Every year, I would take a break from it to focus on more important tasks and take back some time to do more productive things. But since I have deleted it last year, I feel zero need to get back on. One social media is enough for me. It helps me focus on more important tasks and as far as friends go, I talk to my closest friends on a daily (without social media). Again, FB wasn’t for me because I was consumed by it- which is why I felt the need to withdraw myself from that “trap.” You, however, may not be. So this may not be necessarily needed for your lifestyle change.

As I mentioned earlier, the phone being put away when hanging out with friends and family is something I am also working on. Sometimes, my boyfriend will have to remind me but we keep each other grounded. hahah! (Thanks babe!;)

I believe the first step is figuring out what is taking your time and why. Is it helping your relationships or destroying them? Is it making you better or worse? Are you happier by doing it or starting to feel down?

The first step is to realize that today’s “normal” isn’t normal. You not being able to enjoy a concert without taking a thousand pictures and posting it online (immediately) isn’t normal. You, not being able to focus on your relationships without getting pulled back by meaningless “likes” isn’t normal. Normal is being PRESENT. Normal is making memories you will remember forever because you LIVED it, not snapped it. Let that sink it for a minute.



I know this is a lot to take in. And honestly, I was just going to write about this past weekend with my boyfriend but this is something I am super passionate about. It’s something most of us struggle with and need to work on and no one seems to speak up about it. Don’t wait until you are in your death-bed to look back and think- “what did I do with my life?”.. Start your lifestyle change TODAY. Find what is that is taking time from your life and remove yourself from that trap. It won’t happen overnight, but you will succeed. 



xox-Until Next Time