Tips to control anxiety

Tips to control anxiety

 

It’s CLEARLY “that” time of the year again

The time we have a million gifts to buy and 100 parties to attend

Not to mention, our day-to-day activities (gym, work, school)

It’s no wonder my anxiety level went 0 to 100 real quick!

Balance is key for me, but extremely hard to find this time of the year

Can you relate?

So, with 2018 around the corner… (I can’t believe it either)

I decided to worry only about what I CAN control

With anxiety, I had to break it down by asking myself some hard questions:

“Why do I get stressed more so this time of the year than any other month?”

“What activities are causing me stress and why?”

“What can I do to change them? Is it something I can control?”

Reflecting and gathering information helped tremendously

Now I knew what my top 2 causes of stress were

Time management and holiday budget planning

Both my causes of stress were due to lack of planning

Which ultimately funneled down to lack of organization on my end

Planning can be controlled, so I checked these off as something I can work on

So what’s the solution?

2018 Planner from CVS Pharmacy

I actually found the same brand on Amazon for my prime lovers

CLICK HERE for the link

Simple, right?!

This planner has helped me stay in control and not let events control me

Some of you may be thinking, “why not google calendar?”

I’ve tried using phone apps, google calendar, ever note, outlook. You name it!

I found that I’m more engaged when I write things down on paper

I commit to it in writing and I deliver it

The first thing I do in the morning is check my planner

(P.S. Even though it’s “2018,” they have the last few months of the year 2017 included to get you started!)

I check to see how may day is going to go, what to expect, what I need, etc…

It’s just more “real” to me

Just like books, I need to hold a real book in my hand to read

I want to notice the smell of the pages & stack them up in a book shelf

I know not everyone is old-fashioned like me, but I love it!

 

In a world that is getting so advanced in technology, I need to feel more human

And less robotic

I feel it’s important to go back to the basics, sometimes

Like having a full on conversation at a dinner table without checking our phones

Or writing a letter to a friend, just because.

Whenever I look back to when I was younger, that’s what I miss

I don’t think I’ll ever look back and say I miss getting text messages

It’s so effortless, it doesn’t need much thought

I’m super old-school you guys! It’s insane.

But back to anxiety. I hope these tips will help you get control back

Sometimes we feel overwhelmed and think there’s no solution

We make the mistake to assume there is no solution to the problem

Next time your mind tries tricking you, just remember the above steps!

 

Happy Practical Happiness Advice Sunday!

🙂

Talita

Bucket list of joy

Once upon a time…

The Holidays were the happiest time of the year for me

I think a lot of my readers can relate to a time they felt the same

Every year since I moved to the United States, all I’ve done is feel sorry for myself

Every end of November is a reminder of what I no longer have

A huge family to celebrate the holidays with like I used to growing up.

This year, you could say it’s a bit worse

My mom/best friend won’t be here this year either

She traveled to Brasil to be with her mom, brothers and sisters

But I want to change my mindset this year and challenge you to do the same

We can’t change what’s changed (pun-intended)

HOWEVER, we CAN start new traditions

Start new traditions to look forward to that fit your CURRENT life

Because everyone deserves to feel joy this time of the year!

So here are some new traditions I will start this year

Let’s call it my Holiday Bucket List of Joy:

  • Try a holiday baking recipe every year!
  • Go to at least ONE holiday party that a friend throws (no exceptions!)
  • Donate to a homeless shelter or volunteer
  • Invite TWO people in your life to see one Christmas movie at the theaters
  • Wear Christmas PJ’S on Christmas morning or Christmas Eve
  • Go to Mass and thank God for all your blessings (at least once)

YES! So the plan is to have this list on my fridge as a daily reminder

And also, so I can check it off as I complete my traditions.

Obviously, yours may be different than mine

Or you may like what I have.

Either way, I hope this year- you transform your thinking and find joy.

(above pictures from Legacy Place in Dedham)

Great shopping plaza 😉

xx

Talita

 

Mount Washington Hotel Review

Mount Washington Hotel

Let me just start by saying, WOW.

There really is no other word to describe the experience Ryan and I had there

But let me take a step back and tell you right off the bat, this isn’t a paid post

I genuinely enjoyed my stay there and wanted to share my experience with you

I’ve also stopped taking “paid” collaborations since I got back into blogging

I only collaborate with companies I’d recommend regardless of a collaboration

I want this to be a reliable place for my readers, as trust in blogging is decreasing

BUT, don’t take my word for it. I also got pictures to prove it 😉YES, you guys. Pictures don’t even do it justice

I couldn’t stop looking at the endless views, every angle I looked

Not to mention, this getaway to the mountains was a NECESSITY 

Ever just want to escape the city for a couple of nights and get your mind right?

But what’s a girl to do at Mount Washington Hotel?

WELL, I am GLAD you asked!

They have a variety of restaurants/bars/buffet/games/heated outdoor pool/Jacuzzi

As well as, indoor pool and Jacuzzi

They host an event every night, and have donuts or sugar cookies in the morning

FREE of charge. I kid you not.

Did I mention, views?

It’s honestly humbling.

But the real reason I wanted to write a post was because of their staff

I know how hard it is to get the right team to work in a gigantic resort like such

And I was WOWED every single time by their staff

They were so courteous, friendly, helpful, and cheerful

I felt like I was in a Hallmark movie for the weekend

They made Ryan and I feel like we were in a different planet

I’ll give you an example:

When we first arrived, they asked us what we were there for

Ryan said we were there to celebrate my birthday (hence the big gold balloons)

Haha

And later that night, we got a knock on our door. “Room service!

This nice woman was outside holding two delicious cupcakes

Two cupcakes with a happy birthday sign on them

It was the cutest thing.

I honestly didn’t want to leave and can’t wait to go back again.

SO, if you are trying to surprise your loved one with a weekend getaway

Or escape from reality for a bit

I highly recommend you check out Mount Washington Hotel

Lastly, a big shout out to the best boyfriend on this planet for planning this out!

xx

Talita

Hello November

Hello November!

My favorite month of the year, my birthday month 😉

I think I might have overdone it this year.

But then again, I don’t believe in “overdoing” birthdays

I also don’t believe in counting Thanksgiving calories 😉 haha!

On that note, have you thought about what you are grateful for this year?

I’m grateful for a new chance to start over after taking a risk

I’m thankful for taking a risk and learning so much about myself

I’m thankful for my family and friends

I’m also thankful for comfy clothes and purple shampoo.

But let’s talk about this month’s box from Ellie

I mean, I have not taken this outfit off- it’s so freaking comfortable

And I have slept in that white shirt many nights

Once you touch it, you will understand. The material is SO SOFT!

But this month, we also got this cozy wrap that is SO versatile.

It’s so freaking soft too, and way too freaking fashionable for the gym

Like no, I’m wearing this out to brunch instead.
 And of course, this super adorable pair of leggings is also included.

SO, there you have it!

Ellie’s November’s box

CLICK HERE to see how you can subscribe for YOUR monthly surprise!

Thank you for stopping by & Happy Thanksgiving!

xx

Talita

 

Fall Look 2017: Raw

                     

Hi there babes!

Holy shit, it’s been a minute- I want to apologize for the inconsistency with the blog

I took a good chunk of time off to figure out how I can be my true-raw-self and deliver only quality stuff

So for the time being, I will not be working with any clothing companies unless I already buy from them

I want everyone to see how they can still get creative with the stuff in their closet, by mixing and matching

Or by simply buying one new piece, instead of a whole new outfit for a night.

We’ll start with this outfit I’m wearing.

Shoes and shades are from Marshalls, less than $40 combined.

I love Marshalls because you never know what kind of gem you will find there.

Also note, location is key with this store. Each location carries something different (go to a fancy town near you).

Okay, but maybe you are truly interested in this off-shoulder bodysuit (if you’re my friend, you are tired of seeing it)

I got this baby at Forever21 ! >>Here’s a link<< to an off-shoulder look they have

I bought mine in the store and can’t find it online. However, they have many other beautiful ones to choose from.

P.S. This jacket is also from there. I’ve had it for YEARS and every time I wear it, I get compliments on it.

Now let’s talk sexy pencil skirt because every woman should own one

I got this beauty at Charlotte Russe. And lucky for you, I found it and it’s on SALE for $16!

CLICK HERE to check this amazing deal out.

All my life, I’ve dealt with snobby as* btchs that would lie about where they got their outfits from

So I LOVE to be able to share my fashion “secrets” with you

The secret is, there is NONE (at least not with me!).

I like to look good and stack cash, no “bloody shoes” needed. But thanks Nicki Minaj.

P.S.S. I can’t write this without sharing a little personal note. My godmother passed away today.

I’m extremely saddened by it and by what happened in Vegas yesterday. Truly devastating.

I hope everyone truly sees life as a gift because tomorrow certainly isn’t promised

Be safe out there and don’t forget to be grateful for waking up to live another day.

 

Yours Truly,

Talita

Less is more: Shop Smart

Raise your hand if you like to shop!

*hands and feet in the air*

Lately, however, I’ve been very cautious with my money

I feel it’s 10x more important to have cash in the bank than to wear a brand name

This weekend, I was talking to a girlfriend of mine about it

We both went out to eat at Papagayo (Assembly Row) and then decided to check out some stores

We didn’t really make it to store #2

Mainly because we are so used to shopping online

Who has the time and patience to wait in line, look for that specific dress or shirt out of the 100 other items?

It’s just a huge waste of time

The dress below took me 10 minutes to find. It was night time, I was in my pjs ready for bed…

Not to mention I paid PEANUTS for it!

Click HERE for the link, if you want to check it out for yourself 🙂

The material isn’t the greatest, to be very honest. But the dress looks INCREDIBLE on and is SUPER in.

For the money you are paying to purchase it, it’s a great buy

It’s also playful and fun, but the color is what got me

If you have a nice tan, this color is crazy flattering

I got a size M, and it fits like a glove. I found it to be true to size

Also, be ready to iron it- it will need it 🙂

Moral of the story: You don’t need to pay a million bucks to look and feel like a million bucks

Don’t fall for what you see online. Girls often wear expensive things to feel better about themselves

If you are confident, you don’t need to make big purchases to feel beautiful. You know you already are!

Besides, what’s truly important is what’s within.

Too many beautiful girls have a terrible personality. And that can only get them so far.

Be kind, be genuine, work on being your best version- the rest will follow.

 

If you missed the link above, CLICK HERE to check out details on this dress.

 

Have a wonderful week!

xx

T

My secret to staying motivated at the gym

Let’s talk fitness

I make fitness a huge priority in my life

It’s so important for me to stay healthy and feel good about my body

And I know most of us feel the same way, even if we aren’t aware of it as much as others

Feeling good about ourselves has a lot more to do with action than it does with looks

Let me explain why…

Think back to a time you were most active in your life

 Maybe you didn’t LOOK the way you wanted to yet but you still FELT amazing

Because you were working towards that goal

You were doing something about it

So your body automatically reacted in a positive way

(Positive actions lead to positive things)

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Makes sense?

Now, the same way…

Our mind reacts positively OR negatively to how we feel when we look in the mirror

Which is why ressing well before hitting the gym makes ALL THE DIFFERENCE IN THE WORLD

Let me repeat

Dressing well before hitting the gym makes ALL THE DIFFERENCE IN THE WORLD

Why?

Because if you feel SEXY, you feel CONFIDENT and if you feel CONFIDENT, you are in a CONQUERING mindset

NO ONE can stop you.

You don’t care who’s looking, you don’t look at the time as much, you don’t compare yourself to others

You are in the BEST mindset you could possibly be to DESTROY that GOD DAMN WORKOUT!

And start your journey to get in THE BEST SHAPE OF YOUR LIFE.

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Now let’s reverse the story

Tonight, you plan to hit the gym because you are partying it up this weekend

And let’s face it

If you workout today, you won’t feel as guilty about that extra drink 😉

But you throw this old, unflattering t-shirt on that makes you look fat

And those baggy pair of sweats because whatever.

How do you feel right now?

Not great, I’m assuming. And DEFINITELY not motivated to kill a workout

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You know the saying, “Dress for the job you want, not the job you have

Same goes for the gym!

Dress for the body you want, for the motivation you need to reach that goal!

That’s my secret to staying motivated

And these leggings got me super excited to hit the gym

haha!

High waist is my new favorite trend

Don’t you just love it?!

It hides all things unflattering 😉

Plus, the criss cross tie is super adorable

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I’ll be sharing this blazer look with you ladies soon, too.

It’s super light, so I LOVE it for Fall in Boston

Plus, it’s symmetrical

My new obsession.

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Because I’m a strange cat 😉

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I hope this post got you ALL HIPPED UP to go kill a workout

And maybe ready to start your journey to a healthier lifestyle IN STYLE!

Shop this look HERE!

I bet you are blowen away as much as I was when I saw the price.

I don’t like to break my wallet when I shop

And you shouldn’t have to break your wallet to look great, etiher

That’s my motto.

🙂

Have a great weekend babes!

xoxo

BostonBloggers

-Talita

Latino Family Festival 2016

Every year, at Fenway Park, Boston- the Latino culture is celebrated by thousands and thousands of people.

I don’t think I can emphasize THOUSANDS enough.

The one-day features big name Hispanic recording artists (This year, Jerry Rivera was everyone’s favorite).

They also have many exhibitors, and lots of fun games for the families to enjoy with their kids.

Below is myself, totally amused by these two.

I’m a BIIIIG X-MEN fan.

I was basically in heaven. But how cool are their costume?!!! =O)

Ahhh! (great idea for a Halloween costume, too)

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I was so honored to take over El Mundo Boston social media for the day!

Yesterday, I got to interview so many incredible people and fans.

Take some awesome pictures to share with you guys!

And most importantly, support the Latin community of Boston.

Below is the El Mundo Boston Crew that I got to work with all day =)

Left to right: Lady (from adventurself), Ana (from Anagoesfit), Elvis (from El Mundo Boston), MEE, Maritza (El Mundo Boston).

They are all amazing people who I loved meeting & working with.

And hope to collab with again in the near future.

Check them out!!

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My favorite part about the event was the concert when Jerry Rivera & Jonathan sang together.

*inset heart eyes here*

GUYSS.. it was magical.

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Jonathan & Jerry Rivera yesterday- killing it on stage.

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The crowd was going LOCOOO!!!

Everyone was having a BLAST.

The picture below was taken towards the end of the event. =(

Ana and I were sad it was over but had such an amazing time.

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Like, no joke.

SUCH AN AMAZING TIME!

(Ana (left), Wonder Woman, Batman, and I)

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‘Til next time, Jerry and Latino Family Festival.

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Thanks again for having me. =)

Lesson learned this week:

You will NEVER learn what you are CAPABLE of doing, until you go out there and DO IT.

Get out of your comfort zone and go after your dreams.

Time isn’t kind. Time does not wait until you’re ready.

This year I have done and accomplished things I never thought possible.

I have taken chances, and failed.

I have taken chances, and succeeded.

What have you done this year that was out of your comfort zone?

What steps have you taken to accomplish your goals/dreams?

It’s never too late to start.

BostonBloggers

-Talita

What’s Different at Fear Ordinary?

I started Fear Ordinary, October of 2015. Can you believe it? What a journey it has been! I can only hope you have enjoyed it as much as I have! 🙂

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Fear Ordinary came from my own personal fear of living an “ordinary” life. When you hear “fear of living an ordinary life” you may think something slightly different than I do, so let me explain.

 I fear looking back on my death-bed and regretting the things I did not do; such as living a healthier lifestyle for myself and future family, or going for that dream job I always wanted but didn’t think I was ‘good enough’ for. Or fully opening myself up to someone I truly care about and losing them due to some nonexistent fear. The fear most have, “what if?.”

All the above, and more are the reasons I started this blog.

I want to help others to overcome those fears and go for ‘that’ job, ‘that’ guy/girl, live a healthier lifestyle, maintain healthy relationships and live life with NO REGRETS.

I post a lot of my thoughts/experiences/advice on how I’ve been able to do that on “Sunday Night Thoughts.” Which I do actually write on Sundays, but sometimes I’ll post it on Mondays. It depends on how hectic my weekend is.

I also started, as part of living a healthier lifestyle, using all organic products. I call myself an “organic newbie”😉 haha! And I can’t be the only one.

I’ve been sharing reviews of organic products I’ve used on my IG account:FEAR_ORDINARY. And will start sharing them on my blog as of TODAY (for those that choose to not use instagram but still wish to know what is out there for organic products and what companies are reliable to use products from).

As you can tell, since last October to recent, a bit has changed. But my focus stays the same, which is to give you all the tools to live your life to the fullest, with as little regrets as possible.

 

Don’t forget to subscribe to my newsletter, for weekly reminders of “Sunday Night Thoughts.”

Thank you for stopping by and checking out “what’s new!” 😉 See you next time!

     

BostonBloggers

-Tali

 

Revolve: The Handbag Event

 If you love designer handbags and clothes like I do but refuse to spend thousands on them, this consignment boutique is right up your alley.

Revolve is a consignment boutique located  in 5 different cities, including their newest boutique site right on Newbury Street, Boston. The location couldn’t be more perfect, near all the hot spots for you to enjoy a nice evening with your girlfriends on a nice day/night out.

I was honored to attend their launch party and meet their wonderful/overwhelmingly friendly staff last week. Not to mention the owner, Lisa Castagno who is the sweetest, kindest person you will ever meet. 

Lisa Castagno shared with me her love for designer bags/clothes, and how she opened her first store five years ago. She added the importance of having a close relationship with her clients whom her store manager (Chelsea) will go above and beyond for to get their clients their dream designer shoes/bags/clothes for the best discount possible!!

Chelsea, her manager, said a lot of her clients request specific items to where she keeps an eye out for. And when the item arrives in the store, she takes a picture of it and sends it to the client. I thought that was such a sweet/caring touch that shows they truly care about their customers.

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Their bags are from all top designers, including but not limited to: CHANEL, LV, GUCCI. My jaw literally dropped when I saw the prices (ask Nina from http://www.ninalnguyen,com) haha! She was my partner in crime that night.

I had such a great time exploring Revolve with her, and finding out what’s new for our Boston ladies;) We also got to meet another amazing blogger, her name is Aracy. And we’ll soon be going to a brunch event together and share some more exciting news with you.

 

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Above is Lisa Castagno (the owner), and I also added the store event, as well as the cute bar sign with some HUGE discounts which was a sweet touch to the event (if I MUST say so myself) *wink wink*

 

If you follow me on insta, you have taken a quick peak of my look and outfit details. But if not, this is what I decided to where for the event.

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The dress I bought in Italy, Rome. The jacket is from F21. And the shoes are from ClothesEnvy. Click on the links to get the same look;)

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Sorry for the bad quality photo. I tried to zoom in for you guys to see more of the shoes details because I am obsessed with them & think everyone needs a pair. haha! 😉

 

Also, don’t forget to check out REVOLVE or follow them on IG: “RevolveBoutiques” to get some more pictures and ideas of what kind of goodies you can treat yourself with.

 

 

Hope you all had a great Memorial Day Weekend! Stay tuned for more posts and events! I’m also on snapchat now: Fear_ordinary. If you want to follow me live! =D

 

 

xoxo

-Tali