Let’s get real

Man, as I am sitting here sipping off a glass of “Prophecy” red wine. I think it’s super ironic that I’m about to share my favorite online store for active wear.

But truthfully, balance is key. If you enjoy a glass of wine. It’s okay to have it every now and then. I haven’t had wine in months, and today I’m celebrating, you know? =)

Do I really need a reason? No. But I got plenty.

For starters, this comfy Ellie Active Wear for this month’s box is insanely comfortable. I can’t seem to take it off. The over-sized hoodie is kinda everything.

I’m all about the deets. So I needed to show them off for you.

Can I also say that this sports bra is THE MOST COMFORTABLE sports bra I have EVER owned. Even by Ellie. And I went with a size small everything this month. I rather wear it all day than any of my bras. It’s LIFE.

The pants by the way are high waist, but like really. They are.

P.S. They really tighten the belly and lift the butt. It’s a must have in every girls’ closet.

In case you also wanted to know, Boston is “Chicago windy” today…

So the below pic will have to do (without my face showing). Let’s just imagine that’s in right now LOL!

On a serious note (sort of), check out Ellie and find out why I freaking love them.

Every month, you get the cutest box delivered to your door, with another 3 reasons to hit the gym HARD. I mean, if cute gym outfits don’t motivate you to workout, I don’t know what will.

 

CLICK HERE for direct site link. 

 

 

XOX,

T

Bring light to dark times

“BRING LIGHT TO DARK TIMES”

So, it’s been such a long time since I’ve last written on my blog

Being a writer of positive messages, I had too many negative events happen and felt ashamed of not being able to find a “positive platform” to share with you all.

I’ve been struggling to stay positive every day for the last three months

But then, I found something. Something that has helped me so much

It’s only been 36 days since I started but I have noticed some great changes

I started meditating

Meditating has helped me more than I could ever imagine

I wake up at 6:30 am every morning just to have enough time to meditate before work

Anyone that knows me, understands sleep would always come first for me

Not anymore.

What comes first for me is mental clarity and peace now

I feel like I found a constant in a life that’s always changing

I also started being consistent in other areas of my life (I won’t bore you with details)

It’s been such a positive for me

Of course, I’m not walking around saying I’m Buddha quite yet

But I feel pretty great

If you are looking for a platform to find balance again, be more self-aware, more grateful and positive

Try “Headspace”

It’s an app that you can try out meditation for free

And it’s what I now use every day

Start out with the “basics” for 30 days and then pick whatever you want to improve on

“Anxiety, self-esteem, stress” and so on…

I hope this helps bring light to dark moments you encounter in your life

And remember, dark moments don’t define you, they simply make you stronger

XO,

Talita

 

 

New Years Resolution 2018: How to accomplish your goals

New Years Resolution 2018

 Every year, most of us come up with a list of goals we want to accomplish

But many of us never follow through

So how do we make sure 2018 is different?

What keeps us from accomplishing our goals?

Are our goals too unrealistic?

Last year, my goal was to get in shape before 30

I give myself a C- for trying

A+ for meal prepping all year round

F for planning my workouts

D for consistency

This year, I’m not adding anything new to the plan

I’m simply accomplishing what I couldn’t last year

And I’m doing it by noting what went wrong.

Ex: I meal prepped every week. But ate whatever I wanted on weekends.

So this year, I will plan my weekends better.

As far as consistency, I know with school & work.. I can’t overwhelm myself

Therefore, I will work out on Saturdays, Sundays, and twice during the week

Knowing this will help me gain control over my week (less anxiety)

In order for your resolution to be successful, you must know why it failed to begin with!

You must understand the things you need to work on

And finally, put a plan in place to make sure you don’t make the same mistakes

It’s honestly THAT easy!

Be realistic and honest with yourself this year

Don’t add new goals to an existing list, unless you’ve reached all your 2017 goals

Lastly, don’t be too hard on yourself about last year’s goals

With everything we do, there is a lesson learned

This year, you are wiser and better prepared

Believe in yourself, and go after it!

-Talita

The Confidence Gap

Hey guys-

Last week, I finished reading “The Confidence Gap” by Russ Harris

I want to talk about it with you because this book got rid of MANY myths for me

Including the myth that “confidence is something you are born with”

Umm.. say what?!

When I got my first “real” big girl job, I knew NOTHING about it

I walked in my first day scared shitless

Six months later, I walked in like I owned the place

What changed?

I learned, practiced, and took immediate action

Confidence comes AFTER we put in the work, not before

So what does this mean?

Waiting to do something until we “feel confident” makes zero sense

Next time your mind tricks you into thinking that way–acknowledge it

But then tell yourself, “I will only gain confidence by taking action first”

I’ve also learned I act out of emotion a lot

Let me explain…

Let’s say it’s Friday, I had the longest week and feel exhausted

SO naturally, I tell myself I’m too tired to go workout

Well, as much as we all have the right to skip a workout here & there

Making constant excuses out of emotion can be an issue

Since reading this book- my goals are greater than my emotions

I focus on what matters: my values (you will learn your values after reading it)

It’s an amazing feeling to be in control or to know you CAN be

If this sparks your interest- click here

It’s also a great gift to give to someone this holiday season! 🙂

 

xx

Talita

Bucket list of joy

Once upon a time…

The Holidays were the happiest time of the year for me

I think a lot of my readers can relate to a time they felt the same

Every year since I moved to the United States, all I’ve done is feel sorry for myself

Every end of November is a reminder of what I no longer have

A huge family to celebrate the holidays with like I used to growing up.

This year, you could say it’s a bit worse

My mom/best friend won’t be here this year either

She traveled to Brasil to be with her mom, brothers and sisters

But I want to change my mindset this year and challenge you to do the same

We can’t change what’s changed (pun-intended)

HOWEVER, we CAN start new traditions

Start new traditions to look forward to that fit your CURRENT life

Because everyone deserves to feel joy this time of the year!

So here are some new traditions I will start this year

Let’s call it my Holiday Bucket List of Joy:

  • Try a holiday baking recipe every year!
  • Go to at least ONE holiday party that a friend throws (no exceptions!)
  • Donate to a homeless shelter or volunteer
  • Invite TWO people in your life to see one Christmas movie at the theaters
  • Wear Christmas PJ’S on Christmas morning or Christmas Eve
  • Go to Mass and thank God for all your blessings (at least once)

YES! So the plan is to have this list on my fridge as a daily reminder

And also, so I can check it off as I complete my traditions.

Obviously, yours may be different than mine

Or you may like what I have.

Either way, I hope this year- you transform your thinking and find joy.

(above pictures from Legacy Place in Dedham)

Great shopping plaza 😉

xx

Talita

 

Mount Washington Hotel Review

Mount Washington Hotel

Let me just start by saying, WOW.

There really is no other word to describe the experience Ryan and I had there

But let me take a step back and tell you right off the bat, this isn’t a paid post

I genuinely enjoyed my stay there and wanted to share my experience with you

I’ve also stopped taking “paid” collaborations since I got back into blogging

I only collaborate with companies I’d recommend regardless of a collaboration

I want this to be a reliable place for my readers, as trust in blogging is decreasing

BUT, don’t take my word for it. I also got pictures to prove it 😉YES, you guys. Pictures don’t even do it justice

I couldn’t stop looking at the endless views, every angle I looked

Not to mention, this getaway to the mountains was a NECESSITY 

Ever just want to escape the city for a couple of nights and get your mind right?

But what’s a girl to do at Mount Washington Hotel?

WELL, I am GLAD you asked!

They have a variety of restaurants/bars/buffet/games/heated outdoor pool/Jacuzzi

As well as, indoor pool and Jacuzzi

They host an event every night, and have donuts or sugar cookies in the morning

FREE of charge. I kid you not.

Did I mention, views?

It’s honestly humbling.

But the real reason I wanted to write a post was because of their staff

I know how hard it is to get the right team to work in a gigantic resort like such

And I was WOWED every single time by their staff

They were so courteous, friendly, helpful, and cheerful

I felt like I was in a Hallmark movie for the weekend

They made Ryan and I feel like we were in a different planet

I’ll give you an example:

When we first arrived, they asked us what we were there for

Ryan said we were there to celebrate my birthday (hence the big gold balloons)

Haha

And later that night, we got a knock on our door. “Room service!

This nice woman was outside holding two delicious cupcakes

Two cupcakes with a happy birthday sign on them

It was the cutest thing.

I honestly didn’t want to leave and can’t wait to go back again.

SO, if you are trying to surprise your loved one with a weekend getaway

Or escape from reality for a bit

I highly recommend you check out Mount Washington Hotel

Lastly, a big shout out to the best boyfriend on this planet for planning this out!

xx

Talita

Hello November

Hello November!

My favorite month of the year, my birthday month 😉

I think I might have overdone it this year.

But then again, I don’t believe in “overdoing” birthdays

I also don’t believe in counting Thanksgiving calories 😉 haha!

On that note, have you thought about what you are grateful for this year?

I’m grateful for a new chance to start over after taking a risk

I’m thankful for taking a risk and learning so much about myself

I’m thankful for my family and friends

I’m also thankful for comfy clothes and purple shampoo.

But let’s talk about this month’s box from Ellie

I mean, I have not taken this outfit off- it’s so freaking comfortable

And I have slept in that white shirt many nights

Once you touch it, you will understand. The material is SO SOFT!

But this month, we also got this cozy wrap that is SO versatile.

It’s so freaking soft too, and way too freaking fashionable for the gym

Like no, I’m wearing this out to brunch instead.
 And of course, this super adorable pair of leggings is also included.

SO, there you have it!

Ellie’s November’s box

CLICK HERE to see how you can subscribe for YOUR monthly surprise!

Thank you for stopping by & Happy Thanksgiving!

xx

Talita

 

World Mental Health Day: My story

Today is World Mental Health Day

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Did you know 1 in 5 Adults have a mental health condition?

Youth health is also worsening, and 80% of them are left with no or insufficient treatment

When I was about eleven years old, I moved to the U.S. with my parents and six-year-old brother

We moved here with nothing but the clothes we had on

Everything and everyone we knew were a 12 hour flight away

We also didn’t speak the language or know much about this new culture

My dad’s third cousin which he had never met, helped us by giving us shelter at her place for three months

In those three months, she made our lives living hell.

She wouldn’t let us look out the window or leave the house

She’d say we would get deported back home if we stepped outside

We had a VISA to stay at the time but didn’t know any better

This was a new world for us, and the most vulnerable we’ve ever been

Then, my parents finally found a place to rent and found a job

That was when I was left alone to take care of my six-year-old brother for the first time in my life

Soon I started having anxiety and panic attacks

I remember feeling my heart beating so fast I thought it was going to explode

I felt like I was going to die

I can’t explain the awful feeling I felt many nights a week and how many calls my mom had to take from me

My poor mom had to talk me out of a panic attack every call

Until finally, it started to not be so bad

But I still deal with anxiety to this day. And thanks to my amazing mom’s support, I no longer have panic attacks

The reason I’m sharing this is because I’m not ashamed to be human

And neither should you be

Talk about it with a loved one today or write about it, if you are still not 100% “there”

But get it out of your system

Look for help.

I hesitated to see someone for so long, and there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that

I believe that even those that have no issues or think they don’t, SHOULD still see someone

We can all improve our mental health, no matter what state it is in

Most of us had some sort of traumatic event happen in our lives

Whether it was a death in the family, a huge lifestyle change like mine, a bad break up, you name it!

It’s almost impossible to go through life without a scar

But scars are what make us beautiful, they make us human, they make us who we are

And it’s only once we own up to them, that we can move forward to live a beautiful life

I hope you found some comfort in my story

Feel free to email me directly to share yours at tali@fearordinary.com, or comment below

You are not alone.

Yours Truly,

Talita

 

“Don’t fear fear-face it”

Today, I’m devastated

I don’t think anything has hit me as close to home as much as the Vegas shooting

I’ll be at that hotel celebrating my birthday this year

I also lost my godmother today

I know this is a site to show how to live a happy life

But read on and maybe this will help a little

I feel the need to speak up today because I feel so sad

I feel sad to live in a world I’m scared to explore

I feel saddened today because God created this perfect world for us

And we continue to destroy it

We destroy it with pollution, we destroy it by killing animals, we destroy it by killing each other

There is so much hatred, so much hatred in this world

Why is there such little love? Is it because people don’t understand what they are living for anymore?

Or is it because faith has become extinct?

I often wonder if I’m the “silly one” or the intelligent one for believing in God

But it’s because of my belief that I feel like my life has meaning

It’s because of my belief that I treat my body like a temple

It’s because of my belief that I forgive easier and love harder

I try to give back more, even if it’s just a simple smile to someone who is having a bad day

I try to have more compassion towards others

I see everyone as equals

Now, I know I’m not perfect

But today, I’m trying to make sense of why there is so much evil in this world

Today, I’m trying to make sense for others’ actions

I wonder if things will ever change for the better or if they will only get worse for our future generation

Today, I fear for our future

Don’t you?

I fear that even talking about love, hope, fear, and compassion will be looked down upon

I fear that bringing up religion will offend someone because everyone gets offended by everything

I fear that people have truly started to lose hope

Have we lost hope?

I hope not.

You are here for a reason, you were born to make a difference in this world

You have a unique skill that nobody else has

You just have to believe in the power of good, of doing good for others, of believing in yourself

I believe it takes one person to change the world

One person that understands you don’t have to be rich to make a difference

One person that understands sometimes a hug can transform someone’s day/week/month/year

People want to feel like they belong

They want to feel accepted

They want to feel like they matter

Don’t be shy, say”hi” to a stranger tomorrow, smile, give someone a hug when introducing yourself

It’s honestly the greatest feeling in the world. Let’s not lose sight of what it is to be human.

Be Human.

Don’t fear fear- face it.

 

Yours Truly,

Talita

Fall Look 2017: Raw

                     

Hi there babes!

Holy shit, it’s been a minute- I want to apologize for the inconsistency with the blog

I took a good chunk of time off to figure out how I can be my true-raw-self and deliver only quality stuff

So for the time being, I will not be working with any clothing companies unless I already buy from them

I want everyone to see how they can still get creative with the stuff in their closet, by mixing and matching

Or by simply buying one new piece, instead of a whole new outfit for a night.

We’ll start with this outfit I’m wearing.

Shoes and shades are from Marshalls, less than $40 combined.

I love Marshalls because you never know what kind of gem you will find there.

Also note, location is key with this store. Each location carries something different (go to a fancy town near you).

Okay, but maybe you are truly interested in this off-shoulder bodysuit (if you’re my friend, you are tired of seeing it)

I got this baby at Forever21 ! >>Here’s a link<< to an off-shoulder look they have

I bought mine in the store and can’t find it online. However, they have many other beautiful ones to choose from.

P.S. This jacket is also from there. I’ve had it for YEARS and every time I wear it, I get compliments on it.

Now let’s talk sexy pencil skirt because every woman should own one

I got this beauty at Charlotte Russe. And lucky for you, I found it and it’s on SALE for $16!

CLICK HERE to check this amazing deal out.

All my life, I’ve dealt with snobby as* btchs that would lie about where they got their outfits from

So I LOVE to be able to share my fashion “secrets” with you

The secret is, there is NONE (at least not with me!).

I like to look good and stack cash, no “bloody shoes” needed. But thanks Nicki Minaj.

P.S.S. I can’t write this without sharing a little personal note. My godmother passed away today.

I’m extremely saddened by it and by what happened in Vegas yesterday. Truly devastating.

I hope everyone truly sees life as a gift because tomorrow certainly isn’t promised

Be safe out there and don’t forget to be grateful for waking up to live another day.

 

Yours Truly,

Talita