Aw man, this convo is about to get lit before it even gets lit
The title pretty much explains the subject I’m about to discuss
But let me break it down for you
First, let’s talk appearance because appearance will link to everything else.
And don’t you DARE tell me you’ve never compared yourself to anyone else
Because if you didn’t, you’re either lying or an alien
Pick one ;P
(I pick alien!!)
Just kidding….maybe? 😀
We all have compared ourselves to others, don’t be ashamed- it’s totally normal!
But when do we cross the line from normal to unhealthy?
And how do we know when that line has been crossed?
Let’s talk about it, shall we?
If you follow me on Instagram, you probably know I just finished reading “#GIRLBOSS“
(in just 3 days. Because SO BOSS)
#GIRLBOSS is an incredible book. If you are a female- get on it, sista!
Prior to reading #GIRLBOSS, I read “Girl Code” and “You are a badass“
Two bad.ass.books (pun intended)
And I believe they all led me to sharing my thoughts on this post with you ladies
They all have very similar advises to all “girl bosses” out there
One advise that I found needed to be shared is our reaction to other girl bosses successes
Our first reaction should be happy, proud, excited
But instead, it’s jealousy, envy, and sometimes even hatred.
Ex.: “Damn, is that btch really living overseas now with her dreamy European boyfriend?”
You get my point..
(And no, I don’t know a “btch that lives overseas with a dreamy European boyfriend”)
And don’t feel bad if you HAVE felt that way before. Because GIRL, you are NOT alone
After all, we are all humans, right?
Let’s be kind to our souls here.
Unless, you picked alien up top. Then I can’t help you.
But lessbeehonest here..
Now that we are self-aware, we can change how we react towards one another!
Positive vibes lead to a positive life and same goes for negative vibes..
And I’m assuming you want the positive life.
Here’s what I suggest you do next time you see a girl kicking ass
Get genuinely excited for her. Be sure to make it a point to tell her!
And if you look up to her, ask her for advise on how she got there!
(I’ve recently done that with a blogger I admire and I was surprised she even wrote back to me! It was awesome!)
That’s women empowerment & YES, it feels so empowering to support other girl bosses!
And trust me, by doing so, you are sending the Universe a great message, a positive message.
And oh, does the Universe listen.
We all have our time to shine, and we all have our own unique skills to share with the World
And the World is big enough to spread love to ALL OF US, with some leftovers to spare!
THE WORLD IS BIG ENOUGH TO SPREAD LOVE TO ALL OF US AND SOME MORE!!!
I bet you never thought of success that way, did you?
And if so, you go girl!
It’s easy to get caught up on someone else’s life
just because she’s got it, it doesn’t mean there’s nothing left for you to get.
Take the positives
And put them into action.
Fight for your own dreams and goals.
Nothing happens overnight.
(It’s easy to forget if you’re like me and you WANT everything to happen overnight)
You don’t know how many nights of zero sleep “that btch” had to get through- to get to where she is in Europe
And you don’t know how many dating websites she signed up for to meet her dream guy!
You don’t know!!
So the question here is..
Are you willing to put in the hours?
If you’re reading this, I am sure you are!
And if you are,
Welcome to the GIRL BOSS tribe baby!
Time to kick some BUTT!
P.S. The way we think won’t change overnight, you’ve got to train your mind and thoughts to react differently to those situations we talked about. And you will catch yourself feeling some type of way, but when you do, think back to this post and switch your mindset. Work on a better you! And give back only positive vibes to the Universe. TAKE WHAT’S YOURS!
Yesterday, I went to my first blogger event- “Blog Talk Boylston,” hosted by the lovely Libby (http://www.lifewithlibby.com) and (http://www.thenextgentleman.com). They both did an amazing job hosting the event. It was full of life and fun activities that helped us all network and get to know each other better.
Libby & I at Blog Talk Boylston 🙂
Here are some things to expect when going to a blogger event for the first time:
Meet people with the same interests & goals as you or very similar
New tips and ideas from your fellow bloggers
New support system
Exchange social media accounts to add one another to
Many new contacts 🙂
Swag bags (most, not all events)
Great atmosphere with many bloggers to chat with
Great place to network
It’s normal to feel a bit nervous at first because you don’t really know what you’re walking yourself into. But it’s honestly a fear worth conquering, as you will feel a lot more comfortable going to your next event and have an absolute blast. It’s also a great place to practice talking about your blog and what you bring to the table as a blogger.
Here are the top 3 questions all bloggers asked one another:
Who takes your pictures?!!
A: “Boyfriend, husband, or friend.” Most don’t enjoy it but they love us, so they do it 🙂 haha!
Do you approach companies to collaborate or do they approach you?
A: Some say companies approach them, and they think it’s crucial to have your email on every social media in order for the companies to be able to reach out to you. And others say they approach the companies. There is no wrong way of doing this. Each blogger has their own approach.
How do you get such a great following?
A: Most bloggers said consistency on posts on all social medias. And making sure your voice is heard. Your blog should show your personality and who you are. It should differentiate you from others because you are unique. And have something different to offer.
Below are some goodies I got from my swag bag, which I’ll be reviewing in my blog soon! 🙂
Apple Seed Oil: You Apply to your skin for a collagen boost for the fine lines & wrinkles. Use daily on stretch marks and acne.
Product: Leven Rose @levenrosebeauty
Gaffer & Child Organic Face Scrub:
sooth away dead skin with high quality organic ingredients that won’t leave your skin feeling overly dry. Find them @gafferandchild
Splurge Lip Balm
Creme Eye Shadow (Organic)
In conclusion, my first blogger event to go to was a huge success. And I’ve learned that we all go through very similar struggles and I’m not in it alone. I’ve also learned to take a step back and just enjoy the ride. Going to events, meeting new people, learning about myself by each post that I write and experience that I go through is part of the fun. And by doing so, I am hopefully helping others along the way to follow their dreams and fear ordinary. =)
Hope you guys have an amazing Sunday! Catch you next time! =*