Tips to control anxiety

Tips to control anxiety


It’s CLEARLY “that” time of the year again

The time we have a million gifts to buy and 100 parties to attend

Not to mention, our day-to-day activities (gym, work, school)

It’s no wonder my anxiety level went 0 to 100 real quick!

Balance is key for me, but extremely hard to find this time of the year

Can you relate?

So, with 2018 around the corner… (I can’t believe it either)

I decided to worry only about what I CAN control

With anxiety, I had to break it down by asking myself some hard questions:

“Why do I get stressed more so this time of the year than any other month?”

“What activities are causing me stress and why?”

“What can I do to change them? Is it something I can control?”

Reflecting and gathering information helped tremendously

Now I knew what my top 2 causes of stress were

Time management and holiday budget planning

Both my causes of stress were due to lack of planning

Which ultimately funneled down to lack of organization on my end

Planning can be controlled, so I checked these off as something I can work on

So what’s the solution?

2018 Planner from CVS Pharmacy

I actually found the same brand on Amazon for my prime lovers

CLICK HERE for the link

Simple, right?!

This planner has helped me stay in control and not let events control me

Some of you may be thinking, “why not google calendar?”

I’ve tried using phone apps, google calendar, ever note, outlook. You name it!

I found that I’m more engaged when I write things down on paper

I commit to it in writing and I deliver it

The first thing I do in the morning is check my planner

(P.S. Even though it’s “2018,” they have the last few months of the year 2017 included to get you started!)

I check to see how may day is going to go, what to expect, what I need, etc…

It’s just more “real” to me

Just like books, I need to hold a real book in my hand to read

I want to notice the smell of the pages & stack them up in a book shelf

I know not everyone is old-fashioned like me, but I love it!


In a world that is getting so advanced in technology, I need to feel more human

And less robotic

I feel it’s important to go back to the basics, sometimes

Like having a full on conversation at a dinner table without checking our phones

Or writing a letter to a friend, just because.

Whenever I look back to when I was younger, that’s what I miss

I don’t think I’ll ever look back and say I miss getting text messages

It’s so effortless, it doesn’t need much thought

I’m super old-school you guys! It’s insane.

But back to anxiety. I hope these tips will help you get control back

Sometimes we feel overwhelmed and think there’s no solution

We make the mistake to assume there is no solution to the problem

Next time your mind tries tricking you, just remember the above steps!


Happy Practical Happiness Advice Sunday!



The Confidence Gap

Hey guys-

Last week, I finished reading “The Confidence Gap” by Russ Harris

I want to talk about it with you because this book got rid of MANY myths for me

Including the myth that “confidence is something you are born with”

Umm.. say what?!

When I got my first “real” big girl job, I knew NOTHING about it

I walked in my first day scared shitless

Six months later, I walked in like I owned the place

What changed?

I learned, practiced, and took immediate action

Confidence comes AFTER we put in the work, not before

So what does this mean?

Waiting to do something until we “feel confident” makes zero sense

Next time your mind tricks you into thinking that way–acknowledge it

But then tell yourself, “I will only gain confidence by taking action first”

I’ve also learned I act out of emotion a lot

Let me explain…

Let’s say it’s Friday, I had the longest week and feel exhausted

SO naturally, I tell myself I’m too tired to go workout

Well, as much as we all have the right to skip a workout here & there

Making constant excuses out of emotion can be an issue

Since reading this book- my goals are greater than my emotions

I focus on what matters: my values (you will learn your values after reading it)

It’s an amazing feeling to be in control or to know you CAN be

If this sparks your interest- click here

It’s also a great gift to give to someone this holiday season! 🙂




What’s Different at Fear Ordinary?

I started Fear Ordinary, October of 2015. Can you believe it? What a journey it has been! I can only hope you have enjoyed it as much as I have! 🙂


Fear Ordinary came from my own personal fear of living an “ordinary” life. When you hear “fear of living an ordinary life” you may think something slightly different than I do, so let me explain.

 I fear looking back on my death-bed and regretting the things I did not do; such as living a healthier lifestyle for myself and future family, or going for that dream job I always wanted but didn’t think I was ‘good enough’ for. Or fully opening myself up to someone I truly care about and losing them due to some nonexistent fear. The fear most have, “what if?.”

All the above, and more are the reasons I started this blog.

I want to help others to overcome those fears and go for ‘that’ job, ‘that’ guy/girl, live a healthier lifestyle, maintain healthy relationships and live life with NO REGRETS.

I post a lot of my thoughts/experiences/advice on how I’ve been able to do that on “Sunday Night Thoughts.” Which I do actually write on Sundays, but sometimes I’ll post it on Mondays. It depends on how hectic my weekend is.

I also started, as part of living a healthier lifestyle, using all organic products. I call myself an “organic newbie”😉 haha! And I can’t be the only one.

I’ve been sharing reviews of organic products I’ve used on my IG account:FEAR_ORDINARY. And will start sharing them on my blog as of TODAY (for those that choose to not use instagram but still wish to know what is out there for organic products and what companies are reliable to use products from).

As you can tell, since last October to recent, a bit has changed. But my focus stays the same, which is to give you all the tools to live your life to the fullest, with as little regrets as possible.


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Thank you for stopping by and checking out “what’s new!” 😉 See you next time!





How To Overcome Hard Times In Life

Hey my loves! Lately, I’ve been posting so much about my personal life and a lot less about fashion/fitness. I figured since I can’t workout, and I need to rest for both my breast augmentation surgery and my appendix surgery- that I would share a little more about my experiences with you guys throughout this process. I hope it’s been somewhat helpful to hear what I’ve been going through. And please ask away if you have any additional questions aside from what I cover and/or have covered.


Today was probably the toughest day of my recovery for me. I mean, think about it, I didn’t expect surgery number two to take place. I was already back at work, ready to give my all after week 1 of recovering from my breast augmentation and then everything changed.

I was never super fit like these IG fitness models but I always tried to do my best at the gym. Last year was a big year for me where I tried EVERYTHING. When I say everything, I mean everything. I tried pre-made monthly meals (which were a terrible idea because I was eating like a bird due to the size portion they gave me & having zero carbs? I still can’t wrap my head around the reason for that). I also tried all types of gym classes for cardio and I did enjoy most of them, my favorite was cycling & kickboxing cardio (full body workout, so kick as*). I also got “up close & personal” with weights, as before I was very intimidated by those beasts. I got over that fear fairly quickly once I decided to leave my fear behind. And lastly, tried various different programs (booty workout challenges, etc).

Going to the gym 3-4x a week is just something I love to do for myself, it’s “me” time, it’s therapy. Not going since January 20th has been almost depressing. I feel terrible, my body isn’t the same, my energy level isn’t the same, and there’s really not much I can do about that. Today, was a realization day that going to the gym is really a big part of my lifestyle and something I get so much out of, and truly enjoy doing. After trying all those various programs, workouts, etc.. I finally have found what works best for me, so I am super eager to get back at the gym full force and destroy it!

Staying home has helped me put a lot of things in perspective. I have a white board in my room (I highly suggest everyone to have one- I bought mine at Staples) where I have my goals up. Goals are important to have but you don’t want to overwhelm yourself. I went from 3 different goals to 1, to save. I have broken down the numbers and I have set myself a budget that I look at everyday when I wake up. It’s perfect and very effective.

I also realized how lucky I am to be able to drive, walk, sleep well, change clothing without help- Things I couldn’t do or some that I am still struggling with throughout my recovery period. I think it’s important when we feel down- to realize how blessed we are with the things we already have. And I am so extremely blessed and grateful for all the little things, for they are the big things.

Anyway, instead of being down- I turned my negatives into positives. And kept myself busy reorganizing my room, as well as doing some reading. My mind is so used to turning negatives into positives by now that it’s almost automatic. I don’t think about it, it just happens. But it wasn’t easy at first. This is another practice that I would highly recommend that you do. See, for a whole year, 2 years ago, I decided to never complain about anything and only be thankful and grateful, instead. For a whole year, anytime I started thinking of anything negative- I would remember the promise I made myself & think of something I was thankful/grateful for. It took me a whole year to be this positive and I still have my moments! haha But seriously, best thing I have ever done as a New Years Resolution.

It’s getting late, but I wanted to stop by and tell you guys a little bit more about my story and help you achieve a better lifestyle like I have been working towards. Mindset is everything- make sure your thoughts are always working FOR YOU, and not AGAINST you.


xox-Until Next Time