Since I’ve started my blog back a year ago, my top post has been “Sleeping Positions After Breast Augmentation“
And because I’m getting readers from literally all over the world looking for answers, I figured let’s talk about it
(P.S. Thank you to all my readers for your love and support. You guys keep me motivated!)
Breast Augmentation Part II
It will be a year this January since I’ve gotten my breast augmentation done
Some girls actually celebrate that shit. I’m not about that life LOL
Although, I’m not throwing a party for my babies. I must say, it was THE BEST DECISION I’ve ever made
So if you are in the fence about it, try to think about WHY?
When I first thought about getting it done- here are some things that stopped me:
People I was dating at the time (didn’t like their experiences with past “fake boobs”)
Let me clarify the above:
A LOT has changed with surgeries today- if you want them NATURAL, you can get them natural. They will feel natural, bounce around like yours do, if yours is saggy now, they will be saggy then- only bigger. And if you want them fake looking (Pamela Anderson version), then you can get those too!
Just make sure you go to the right surgeon, someone with 20+ years of experience with track record to prove it.
My doctor was Dr. Jeffrey Darrow, he was absolutely fantastic.
He has the experience, education and track record. Feel free to look him up if you are in Boston!
He asked me many questions to make sure I would be 100% happy when everything was “said and done,” and in addition, Ryan and I spent HOURS looking at girls with my height, weight, and boob size (prior to surgery and post surgery) to figure out how it would look on me. It was at times, super nerve wrecking.
But research is needed in order for you to choose what is right for you!
I was also afraid I’d lose sensitivity but it’s so rare to happen. And thankfully, it didn’t.
The procedure itself was super smooth and quick (1 hour and a half tops?).
The recovery period is 1 week, yes one week before you’re back to work with your babes!
But during that one week, you will need someone around to help you out.
They don’t start looking 100% natural until I would say at least 3-6 months in.
(depending on the person)
I’d ask your doctor, as it also depends which surgery you’ll choose to do (under boobs, through the nipples, or arm pit).
I was told through the nipples is a no-no, that’s when you are more likely to lose sensitivity.
I did under the boobs, it was the best decision as the cut fades so much, you can hardly see it. And it’s the one likely to heal better and look more natural. Again, consult with your doctor as this was my experience.
Sleeping Positions from MY experience, the first 3 months you need to be very careful.
Sleep upright or on your sides with a sports bra on- don’t go to bed in your birthday suit haha!
At least not for a while.
At the same time, if you are not sleeping well in those positions, you need to consult with your doctor as sleep is a big factor for the healing process.
I now sleep in any position I wish. I honestly have certain positions that are needed for me to fall asleep, otherwise I won’t. So I can’t do without them. But my boobs feel 100% healed.
Keep in mind, it will still feel super weird sleeping with them. Before, I’d sleep on my belly and I wouldn’t really feel any discomfort, but now I do a little because I have these big boobs that are in the way haha!
Also, keep in mind, bathing suit shopping will be SUPER tough depending on the size you choose. Mine is impossible. I literally had the hardest time this summer. And lingerie, don’t get me started. It will have to be all Victoria’s Secret. And I was fortunate to find a great store in Italy, where they have super sexy lingerie in my size. And it’s actually affordable (win win).
Comment below if you’d like suggestions on stores for a future post and I can talk more about that.
Also, dresses you normally can pull off with no bras? Say goodbye to all of them.
You won’t be able to pull it off anymore.
Those are all things you must consider prior to surgery.
I knew most of these things but not to the extent that I know now.
Do I regret it? Absolutely not.
I’d do it again and again and again.
And maybe, I’d even go bigger.
But I’m tiny so that’d probably not be the best decision.
Keep in mind though,
When in DOUBT, go bigger.
No one ever regrets going big 😉
Your Doctor will always suggest a “moderate” size. I was suggested to go 2 sizes smaller, and I would’ve hated it.
I want it to be noticeable!
I understand not everyone will feel the same way.
I have friends that wanted no one to notice.
So they went just a size up.
I like drama when it comes to my image. I’m exotic and bold, so I wanted my boobs to match my personality.
And to be honest, at work its super unnoticeable. It depends on what you wear.
One last tip- don’t worry about “the noise” and don’t look for approval.
Do what makes YOU happy.
People will hate all day or they will support you but you will NEVER make everyone happy.
And that should not matter anyway. Because the only person who needs to be happy is YOU.
And loving your body is the best thing in the world.
If it’s something that only surgery can do for you, I support 100%.
Boobs won’t grow by working out but your butt will, for example.
There are some things we have no control of and others we have full control of. 😉
Any questions, please comment below and I’ll be happy to answer them! 🙂 xx
How do we LET GO of 2016 baggage and start fresh?!
Let’s start by saying…
(insert Beyonce’s “bye face” here)
I think so many of us feel the same way about this year
The Universe must have had a lot of negative energy all throughout to send us back all these challenges
But here we are- the good thing about a “bad year” or a “bad day” is our chances of making it are almost 100%
Unless, a bad day was you getting hit by a bus and dying
That would suck ROYALLY.
But hopefully, if you are reading this- you have made it through the hard times & you didn’t get hit by a bus?! (WINNING!)
Congratulations for going through a bunch of shit and getting through it
It’s not easy and you are NOT alone.
Give yourself the credit you deserve!
Here are some things I do to stay positive during hard times:
Example of my current list:
This week I’m grateful for my health- it allows me to workout and do the things I love. After meeting with the salon lady that mentioned her struggles with breast cancer this year. I feel very fortunate to have my health.
True friends- I talked to my girlfriend for a whole hour on the phone the other night and I’m not even a phone person. I love that I have true friends that make the time to call me and check in with me. That’s old fashioned shit right there and I appreciate the effort and love.
Boyfriend- after a crazy year of many life changes (career change, body change, vehicle change(s), and unexpectedchanges & struggles) he stood by my side and supported me like the amazing, incredible person that he is. I couldn’t have asked for a better person to share another year with and I feel so blessed and grateful for his presence in my life. Gahh, I’m more in love with him than ever. And I can’t wait to spend another year by his side.
I’ll keep the above list at 3 but you get my point. You automatically feel better after writing down about your week and the things you are grateful for.
Motivational White Board
I have a white board in my room with self-love reminders to myself.
After reading over 10 books of living a positive/happy/fulfilled life- the self-love reminder stuck with me the most
I think we all need to remind ourselves of our awesomeness
Example of my board:
Words to say everyday- I am…
(write 5 things you are OR need to believe you are on the board)
“Beautiful, caring, loving, hard-working, deserving of all good things the Universe has to offer”
Those things are important to remember!!
Send positive signs to the Universe and the Universe will return positive things back to you
You will start to believe that you are deserving! Because well, you are!
I found the white board VERYcrucial for me this year
In the beginning, I remember reading it every morning and tears would run down my face because I didn’t believe it
I didn’t believe I was all those wonderful things, I didn’t believe I was deserving
And now I read it and I smile. 🙂
Surround yourself with POSITIVE/MOTIVATING/LIKE-MINDED PEOPLE
Ahh- sooooo damnn crucial this one.
I’m still working on it!
This is specially tough because maybe you have those people in your life already but maybe you don’t
What happens when you have negative, Debbie downers, complainers in your life?
They’ll bring you down with them. And THAT ISN’T GOOD!
Sounds harsh? Well, it is but it’s true!
And how do you go about finding people that think and see life the same way as you do?
Or better yet, someone that has already accomplished so much due to their approach on life (a mentor, possibly)
If you surround yourself with successful people, you are bound to be successful
Same goes for positive, motivating, funny, whatever qualities you are seeking or seeking more of.
So attend that networking event, approach someone at work you admire or message that long lost friend
This is YOUR life! You don’t get to do it twice!!
At least not that I know about
Giving back is not only for the wealthy.
There are many ways to give back without spending a dime.
You can volunteer somewhere you are passionate about
You can write a letter to someone in need of your support or spend a day with someone that needs your company
You can adopt an animal or care for one for the weekend
All these things and many more can help bring meaning to your life and help you find yourself.
It’s easy to think back to 2016 and say, “I DIDN’T DESERVE ALL THE CRAP THAT WENT ON!“
It’s hard to look back and say, “Ok, xyz happened.. what did I learn from it? Or how could I have avoided that situation? What will I do going forward to make things better for myself? Do I blame the bird for the poop or is it myself I have to blame (for the poop?)” WORST ANALOGY, EVER! HAHAHAHAH
Those are hard things to evaluate. Because it will make you feel like shit, facing the honest truth sometimes is hard!
I’ll give you guys an example of one of my shitty situations in 2016:
I bought a car from a “so called friend” that would “never do me wrong.”
The car cost me over 5k to fix and still kept breaking on me.
It’s caused me headaches and sleepless nights- and to top it off, I found out it had a salvage tittle when trying to get rid of the piece of shit.
I went back and the same guy screwed me over again, and again, and again.
Three times to be exact!
Worst experience car shopping of my entire life- not to mention the amount of disappointment, stress and so on that came with it.
I can sit here and say, it’s HIS FAULT. He is a heartless/ lying son of a gun that only thinks about money, and saw an opportunity to take advantage of me because I don’t know much about cars.
OK- maybe I did think that at first and maybe it is true. But you know what else is true?
I should’ve done more research on the dealership, in the car, I should’ve asked more questions and not jumped into buying it so fast. I shouldn’t have trusted him solely because he said he wasn’t going to screw me over. That was terrible judgement from my part.
Although, now I know a lot- back then, I didn’t. And I placed my trust in the wrong person. It’s really my mistake.
Going forward, will I ever jump into buying a car again? FUCK NO.
Going forward will I trust someone just because I believe in the human race? Absolutely not.
Going forward will I buy from the piece of shit asshole again? Guy, please!
I’ve learned my lesson the hard way.
You want a better year 2017?
Start putting the above into practice.
Let go of all things after writing them down, letting them out by venting with a friend or a therapist.
Aw man, this convo is about to get lit before it even gets lit
The title pretty much explains the subject I’m about to discuss
But let me break it down for you
First, let’s talk appearance because appearance will link to everything else.
And don’t you DARE tell me you’ve never compared yourself to anyone else
Because if you didn’t, you’re either lying or an alien
Pick one ;P
(I pick alien!!)
Just kidding….maybe? 😀
We all have compared ourselves to others, don’t be ashamed- it’s totally normal!
But when do we cross the line from normal to unhealthy?
And how do we know when that line has been crossed?
Let’s talk about it, shall we?
If you follow me on Instagram, you probably know I just finished reading “#GIRLBOSS“
(in just 3 days. Because SO BOSS)
#GIRLBOSS is an incredible book. If you are a female- get on it, sista!
Prior to reading #GIRLBOSS, I read “Girl Code” and “You are a badass“
Two bad.ass.books (pun intended)
And I believe they all led me to sharing my thoughts on this post with you ladies
They all have very similar advises to all “girl bosses” out there
One advise that I found needed to be shared is our reaction to other girl bosses successes
Our first reaction should be happy, proud, excited
But instead, it’s jealousy, envy, and sometimes even hatred.
Ex.: “Damn, is that btch really living overseas now with her dreamy European boyfriend?”
You get my point..
(And no, I don’t know a “btch that lives overseas with a dreamy European boyfriend”)
And don’t feel bad if you HAVE felt that way before. Because GIRL, you are NOT alone
After all, we are all humans, right?
Let’s be kind to our souls here.
Unless, you picked alien up top. Then I can’t help you.
But lessbeehonest here..
Now that we are self-aware, we can change how we react towards one another!
Positive vibes lead to a positive life and same goes for negative vibes..
And I’m assuming you want the positive life.
Here’s what I suggest you do next time you see a girl kicking ass
Get genuinely excited for her. Be sure to make it a point to tell her!
And if you look up to her, ask her for advise on how she got there!
(I’ve recently done that with a blogger I admire and I was surprised she even wrote back to me! It was awesome!)
That’s women empowerment & YES, it feels so empowering to support other girl bosses!
And trust me, by doing so, you are sending the Universe a great message, a positive message.
And oh, does the Universe listen.
We all have our time to shine, and we all have our own unique skills to share with the World
And the World is big enough to spread love to ALL OF US, with some leftovers to spare!
THE WORLD IS BIG ENOUGH TO SPREAD LOVE TO ALL OF US AND SOME MORE!!!
I bet you never thought of success that way, did you?
And if so, you go girl!
It’s easy to get caught up on someone else’s life
just because she’s got it, it doesn’t mean there’s nothing left for you to get.
Take the positives
And put them into action.
Fight for your own dreams and goals.
Nothing happens overnight.
(It’s easy to forget if you’re like me and you WANT everything to happen overnight)
You don’t know how many nights of zero sleep “that btch” had to get through- to get to where she is in Europe
And you don’t know how many dating websites she signed up for to meet her dream guy!
You don’t know!!
So the question here is..
Are you willing to put in the hours?
If you’re reading this, I am sure you are!
And if you are,
Welcome to the GIRL BOSS tribe baby!
Time to kick some BUTT!
P.S. The way we think won’t change overnight, you’ve got to train your mind and thoughts to react differently to those situations we talked about. And you will catch yourself feeling some type of way, but when you do, think back to this post and switch your mindset. Work on a better you! And give back only positive vibes to the Universe. TAKE WHAT’S YOURS!
You are going through a VERY awkward stage of your life a.k.a. puberty
Or maybe you “bloomed” early and skipped right through puberty
And your parents actually gave you money to get your hair done and buy nice clothes
Maybe you even had a cell phone
(nothing wrong with that!)
But let’s just think back to those days for a minute..
Because no matter what “stage” you were in..
Everyone was measuring you up
And trying to see if you were “cool” enough in their eyes.
You are now walking to your first class..
Everyone is starring, making comments, whispering..
“Who is that?”
“What is she wearing?”
“Are those PIMPLES in her face?!”
“Let’s cross her right off our list”
Fun times, right?
Now, add a different skin color and a BIG.FAT.ACCENT
Like, something that screams “I don’t belong here“
You are now an immigrant in a foreign country, going through Middle School
And guess what?!
YOU CAN’T DO SHIT ABOUT IT
It wasn’t your decision, but you are stuck in this foreign place where you don’t speak the language
Where your childhood friends are now just a memory, as you don’t know when you’ll see them again
I mean, those friends get you- they get your style, your weirdness, your ways
But now you gotta start over, so SNAP OUT OF IT
(oh and by the way, your name screams “I don’t belong here” and NO ONE knows how to pronounce it)
Someone’s calling your name but you don’t know how to respond in their language
It’s your teacher
She wants you to read this chapter of the history book out loud…so everyone can hear!
So you try your best..
But you never took English classes before coming to the United States
And all you know are these words: Water (insert British accent here), dog, cat, and hello.
Now everyone starts laughing
They are not being TOO loud and obvious but you can hear them
They are kids, they don’t get what you’re going through.
But so are you.
This is only the beginning of lots of humiliations, getting made fun of..
Not to mention, you are also seeing how hurt your parents are
They are also getting humiliated by their peers at work.
And they start to wonder why they even decided to move here.
Is all this even worth it?
They HATE the fact they had to put their kids through this
But they did it for them (for you!)
They want YOU to have a better future
You can’t give up, right?
You must keep it together.
Now, that was a Middle School example.
But that’s something many immigrants deal with everyday
Adults are looked at differently everyday, therefore treated poorly
Judged because they don’t look like they belong
Judged before even being spoken to
Being HUMILIATED at work by their peers because of their accents
And the list goes on.
Still today, October 10th of 2016-
17 years later..
Kids are going through what I went through in school
Being bullied, talked down on, laughed at because they are “different”
And here we are, having TRUMP as one of the candidates for President, next to Hillary.
Why do we think he’s up there?
Racism still very much exists.
I know that’s only one of the reasons people are supporting him. But you get my point.
Now, answer me this:
When will everyone be treated and looked at the same?
What WORLD are we creating for our current and future generation?
When will enough, finally be enough?
The point of me telling you this story comes from a quote I very much believe in..
“YOU MUST BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD.” -Gandhi
We tend to point fingers when it comes to all the terrible things we see and hear about everyday in this World.
But if everyone started with themselves, started changing maybe one thing here and there that could
make THEM a better person. The World would ultimately start being a better place.
START WITH YOU.
“If you change yourself you will change your world. If you change how you think then you will change how you feel and what actions you take. And so the world around you will change. Not only because you are now viewing your environment through new lenses of thoughts and emotions but also because the change within can allow you to take action in ways you wouldn’t have – or maybe even have thought about – while stuck in your old thought patterns.” -Gandhi
I hope this helps you think differently.
It’s never too late to be a better version of ourselves.