Tips to control anxiety

Tips to control anxiety

 

It’s CLEARLY “that” time of the year again

The time we have a million gifts to buy and 100 parties to attend

Not to mention, our day-to-day activities (gym, work, school)

It’s no wonder my anxiety level went 0 to 100 real quick!

Balance is key for me, but extremely hard to find this time of the year

Can you relate?

So, with 2018 around the corner… (I can’t believe it either)

I decided to worry only about what I CAN control

With anxiety, I had to break it down by asking myself some hard questions:

“Why do I get stressed more so this time of the year than any other month?”

“What activities are causing me stress and why?”

“What can I do to change them? Is it something I can control?”

Reflecting and gathering information helped tremendously

Now I knew what my top 2 causes of stress were

Time management and holiday budget planning

Both my causes of stress were due to lack of planning

Which ultimately funneled down to lack of organization on my end

Planning can be controlled, so I checked these off as something I can work on

So what’s the solution?

2018 Planner from CVS Pharmacy

I actually found the same brand on Amazon for my prime lovers

CLICK HERE for the link

Simple, right?!

This planner has helped me stay in control and not let events control me

Some of you may be thinking, “why not google calendar?”

I’ve tried using phone apps, google calendar, ever note, outlook. You name it!

I found that I’m more engaged when I write things down on paper

I commit to it in writing and I deliver it

The first thing I do in the morning is check my planner

(P.S. Even though it’s “2018,” they have the last few months of the year 2017 included to get you started!)

I check to see how may day is going to go, what to expect, what I need, etc…

It’s just more “real” to me

Just like books, I need to hold a real book in my hand to read

I want to notice the smell of the pages & stack them up in a book shelf

I know not everyone is old-fashioned like me, but I love it!

 

In a world that is getting so advanced in technology, I need to feel more human

And less robotic

I feel it’s important to go back to the basics, sometimes

Like having a full on conversation at a dinner table without checking our phones

Or writing a letter to a friend, just because.

Whenever I look back to when I was younger, that’s what I miss

I don’t think I’ll ever look back and say I miss getting text messages

It’s so effortless, it doesn’t need much thought

I’m super old-school you guys! It’s insane.

But back to anxiety. I hope these tips will help you get control back

Sometimes we feel overwhelmed and think there’s no solution

We make the mistake to assume there is no solution to the problem

Next time your mind tries tricking you, just remember the above steps!

 

Happy Practical Happiness Advice Sunday!

🙂

Talita

The Confidence Gap

Hey guys-

Last week, I finished reading “The Confidence Gap” by Russ Harris

I want to talk about it with you because this book got rid of MANY myths for me

Including the myth that “confidence is something you are born with”

Umm.. say what?!

When I got my first “real” big girl job, I knew NOTHING about it

I walked in my first day scared shitless

Six months later, I walked in like I owned the place

What changed?

I learned, practiced, and took immediate action

Confidence comes AFTER we put in the work, not before

So what does this mean?

Waiting to do something until we “feel confident” makes zero sense

Next time your mind tricks you into thinking that way–acknowledge it

But then tell yourself, “I will only gain confidence by taking action first”

I’ve also learned I act out of emotion a lot

Let me explain…

Let’s say it’s Friday, I had the longest week and feel exhausted

SO naturally, I tell myself I’m too tired to go workout

Well, as much as we all have the right to skip a workout here & there

Making constant excuses out of emotion can be an issue

Since reading this book- my goals are greater than my emotions

I focus on what matters: my values (you will learn your values after reading it)

It’s an amazing feeling to be in control or to know you CAN be

If this sparks your interest- click here

It’s also a great gift to give to someone this holiday season! 🙂

 

xx

Talita

Bucket list of joy

Once upon a time…

The Holidays were the happiest time of the year for me

I think a lot of my readers can relate to a time they felt the same

Every year since I moved to the United States, all I’ve done is feel sorry for myself

Every end of November is a reminder of what I no longer have

A huge family to celebrate the holidays with like I used to growing up.

This year, you could say it’s a bit worse

My mom/best friend won’t be here this year either

She traveled to Brasil to be with her mom, brothers and sisters

But I want to change my mindset this year and challenge you to do the same

We can’t change what’s changed (pun-intended)

HOWEVER, we CAN start new traditions

Start new traditions to look forward to that fit your CURRENT life

Because everyone deserves to feel joy this time of the year!

So here are some new traditions I will start this year

Let’s call it my Holiday Bucket List of Joy:

  • Try a holiday baking recipe every year!
  • Go to at least ONE holiday party that a friend throws (no exceptions!)
  • Donate to a homeless shelter or volunteer
  • Invite TWO people in your life to see one Christmas movie at the theaters
  • Wear Christmas PJ’S on Christmas morning or Christmas Eve
  • Go to Mass and thank God for all your blessings (at least once)

YES! So the plan is to have this list on my fridge as a daily reminder

And also, so I can check it off as I complete my traditions.

Obviously, yours may be different than mine

Or you may like what I have.

Either way, I hope this year- you transform your thinking and find joy.

(above pictures from Legacy Place in Dedham)

Great shopping plaza 😉

xx

Talita

 

World Mental Health Day: My story

Today is World Mental Health Day

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Did you know 1 in 5 Adults have a mental health condition?

Youth health is also worsening, and 80% of them are left with no or insufficient treatment

When I was about eleven years old, I moved to the U.S. with my parents and six-year-old brother

We moved here with nothing but the clothes we had on

Everything and everyone we knew were a 12 hour flight away

We also didn’t speak the language or know much about this new culture

My dad’s third cousin which he had never met, helped us by giving us shelter at her place for three months

In those three months, she made our lives living hell.

She wouldn’t let us look out the window or leave the house

She’d say we would get deported back home if we stepped outside

We had a VISA to stay at the time but didn’t know any better

This was a new world for us, and the most vulnerable we’ve ever been

Then, my parents finally found a place to rent and found a job

That was when I was left alone to take care of my six-year-old brother for the first time in my life

Soon I started having anxiety and panic attacks

I remember feeling my heart beating so fast I thought it was going to explode

I felt like I was going to die

I can’t explain the awful feeling I felt many nights a week and how many calls my mom had to take from me

My poor mom had to talk me out of a panic attack every call

Until finally, it started to not be so bad

But I still deal with anxiety to this day. And thanks to my amazing mom’s support, I no longer have panic attacks

The reason I’m sharing this is because I’m not ashamed to be human

And neither should you be

Talk about it with a loved one today or write about it, if you are still not 100% “there”

But get it out of your system

Look for help.

I hesitated to see someone for so long, and there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that

I believe that even those that have no issues or think they don’t, SHOULD still see someone

We can all improve our mental health, no matter what state it is in

Most of us had some sort of traumatic event happen in our lives

Whether it was a death in the family, a huge lifestyle change like mine, a bad break up, you name it!

It’s almost impossible to go through life without a scar

But scars are what make us beautiful, they make us human, they make us who we are

And it’s only once we own up to them, that we can move forward to live a beautiful life

I hope you found some comfort in my story

Feel free to email me directly to share yours at tali@fearordinary.com, or comment below

You are not alone.

Yours Truly,

Talita

 

“Don’t fear fear-face it”

Today, I’m devastated

I don’t think anything has hit me as close to home as much as the Vegas shooting

I’ll be at that hotel celebrating my birthday this year

I also lost my godmother today

I know this is a site to show how to live a happy life

But read on and maybe this will help a little

I feel the need to speak up today because I feel so sad

I feel sad to live in a world I’m scared to explore

I feel saddened today because God created this perfect world for us

And we continue to destroy it

We destroy it with pollution, we destroy it by killing animals, we destroy it by killing each other

There is so much hatred, so much hatred in this world

Why is there such little love? Is it because people don’t understand what they are living for anymore?

Or is it because faith has become extinct?

I often wonder if I’m the “silly one” or the intelligent one for believing in God

But it’s because of my belief that I feel like my life has meaning

It’s because of my belief that I treat my body like a temple

It’s because of my belief that I forgive easier and love harder

I try to give back more, even if it’s just a simple smile to someone who is having a bad day

I try to have more compassion towards others

I see everyone as equals

Now, I know I’m not perfect

But today, I’m trying to make sense of why there is so much evil in this world

Today, I’m trying to make sense for others’ actions

I wonder if things will ever change for the better or if they will only get worse for our future generation

Today, I fear for our future

Don’t you?

I fear that even talking about love, hope, fear, and compassion will be looked down upon

I fear that bringing up religion will offend someone because everyone gets offended by everything

I fear that people have truly started to lose hope

Have we lost hope?

I hope not.

You are here for a reason, you were born to make a difference in this world

You have a unique skill that nobody else has

You just have to believe in the power of good, of doing good for others, of believing in yourself

I believe it takes one person to change the world

One person that understands you don’t have to be rich to make a difference

One person that understands sometimes a hug can transform someone’s day/week/month/year

People want to feel like they belong

They want to feel accepted

They want to feel like they matter

Don’t be shy, say”hi” to a stranger tomorrow, smile, give someone a hug when introducing yourself

It’s honestly the greatest feeling in the world. Let’s not lose sight of what it is to be human.

Be Human.

Don’t fear fear- face it.

 

Yours Truly,

Talita

Body Image: How to overcome it

Dear you, make peace with the mirror and watch your reflection change.

 

Today, I would like to talk about body image.

The way we see ourselves in the mirror every morning/night has a lot to do with our mental state

Many women today are influenced by their definition of what’s “beautiful” by social media, and life influences..

Once upon a time, in the 90’s, “heroine chic” was in, anyone that looked skinny AF was attractive

So if you didn’t have the “heroine chic” look, you starved yourself everyday or binge ate and purge to “fit in.”

But heroine chic all of a sudden wasn’t attractive anymore. That fever was FINITO.

To be perceived as “attractive” you now had to have curves.

And all those girls now started eating more, under-going surgeries to get curves they didn’t have, or committed suicide because they didn’t see a way they could fit in with society anymore.

I don’t think I need to explain here why this is sickening

I also don’t need to explain that the world’s view of what’s attractive will not always be the same as today’s’, it will continue to change- as it has throughout the years.

But for some reason, girls aren’t seeing the whole picture and men are buying into the fake girls on Instagram

We are all idolizing the wrong things and the end result, most are not happy with what they have

The girls think what they see on the internet is real or if they know it’s fake, a lot of times they can’t afford it

The guys see these chicks online everyday and feel like that’s what every girl needs to look like or they’re all set

I’ve personally been told I don’t look good enough because this guy I was dating years ago was obsessed with checking out these Instagram girls /reality tv shows with girls who looked far from real and he eventually forgot what he originally liked about me. I was no longer viewed as “pretty” or “beautiful” next to those girls.

Oh and since, he hasn’t found this “ideal girl” he had in his mind

It’s honestly sickening how much we’ve all become so self-absorbed on what’s outside

So much so that most of us forget to work on what’s inside

I love running into girls that work on themselves, girls that care about things greater than themselves

Girls that work on their souls, minds, mental health & well-being

Those are the type of girls that offer substance & VALUE to their friendships and relationships

Ultimately, when we stop obsessing over ourselves is when we find fulfillment and happiness

We don’t even think about being depressed because we are so aware of what is going on in the World

So many people have never seen SHOWERS or apartments in their lives

We have EVERYTHING and yet we complain that life isn’t great because our butt isn’t big enough

One day, we will look back and wish we could have put our time to better use

Only when we realize and focus on what TRULY matters, is when we will start living a life far from ordinary

Only when we stop focusing on material things and start helping others is when we will find true happiness.

Now I get asked all the time if I am a bit too obsessed with fitness and if that goes against what I preach

Here’s my answer to those wondering:

I work on self-development every single day but part of living a long healthy life to me is taking care of myself

I don’t think it’s wrong to feel good mentally & physically, as long as you are doing it for YOU and not for approval

I’ve come a long way when it comes to doing things for me and not for others. And I am proud to say I am in a great place where I found a balance between the two that is not obsessive.

And yes, I feel it’s crucial for all of us to find our own balances

As I always say, “DO YOU, BLOCK THE NOISE, DRINK CHAMPAGNE.

Sometimes less is more. In this case, the less you care about what others think of you, the more pleasure you will find in living. Be you, be authentic, and make a difference.

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I hope you ladies found this subject helpful!

Please share your experiences or thoughts if you have any 🙂

xx

T

 

 

 

Balance: Business & Pleasure

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Let’s talk life balance today. Because business and pleasure, please!

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I’ve had a job since I was legally able to work in the U.S (age: 16 years old)

After graduating High School, I needed more than a PT job to pay the bills though

So “adulting” began in the summer of ’06

I found a full-time job and turned it into a career of now twelve years

And throughout those twelve years, I’ve learned a thing or two on work/life balance

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Don’t let those twelve years fool you though!

Although, I’ve been managing the work/life balance since ’06. It wasn’t that long ago since I finally mastered it.

That’s right. It’s truly taking me quite a bit of time to figure the solution we all seek

So let me start you guys off by the root of the problem or at least the root of MY problems

And hopefully you can relate and start making some changes to improve your lifestyle

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These were the things that kept me from achieving a work/life balance I so desired:

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  1. I NEVER said “no.”

I’d come home from work, exhausted AF and I’d get a text from a friend asking to grab dinner/drinks that night and I’d say yes! I’d say yes without thinking twice about it.

If you want to have balance, you must learn when to say NO.

Learn HOW & WHEN to say no, so you can focus on you and other tasks that are important to you. Be selfish, sometimes. It is OK!!!

This was such a huge lifestyle change for me and made me feel so much lighter.

It truly gave me back time I never thought I had. And allowed me to focus more on my goals & what needed to get done.

2. Communicate!

Learn to speak up about your challenges with the people you care about.

My boyfriend and I understand our schedules and what’s important to us.

We both workout 4-5 times a week, we work 9-5 jobs.

Therefore, we mostly see each other on weekends. And maybe once a week.

We get it and we understand it.

Supporting each others’ hobbies is what has made our relationship strong.

Same goes with my friendships. We all have different schedules but we still maintain a tight friendship.

We don’t see each other every weekend but we are there for one another.

Communicate the “why” and those who matter, will understand.

But make it a point to see your friends, too.

My friends and I see each other at least once or twice a month. Don’t disappear.

Which brings me to my next point…

3. Plan your month out

Planning your month out will leave you with much less anxiety about not being there for your friends, family, boyfriend/girlfriend.

Let them know you need a month’s notice with your schedule to make sure you can be there for them.

This gives you time to plan around those events, and also give yourself some “me” time.

Not to mention, it takes away all that stress from “not knowing” and not planning.

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And finally, don’t overwhelm yourself or be too hard on yourself because you are busy trying to build the life of your dreams!

There is nothing wrong with that!

Finding the right balance that fits YOUR life can take time.

But if you learn to say no, communicate and plan ahead. You will be just fine. 🙂

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Hope these tips are helpful to your new lifestyle change!

Time is priceless, don’t abuse it and give it your utmost attention.

xx

-T

Transparency: Discover your RAW self again!

Look at me smiling from the inside out in the picture above

And ask yourself, “When was the last time I truly felt deep/meaningful happiness?”

Like the type that you almost feel like you want to cry from finally arriving to that state of mind

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Today, I want to share a little more about me with you

And I want to thank Ellie Active Wear for actually giving me the inspiration to do so.

A few days ago, I was going back and forth with the representative of Ellie

You know, we were talking details, such as when my box will arrive and what to expect (stay tuned for more deetz)

And the representative was telling me every detail because they pride on TRANSPARENCY

They want their clients to KNOW what they are getting

And not hide any changes or details that might surprise them

I thought that was very cool and this week, it just so happens “transparency” came up a lot

I don’t know if it was just because that word was already on my mind about Ellie Active Wear

Or if it was pure coincidence!

But I had back to back meetings this week

On Monday, I met my new boss and he used that word pretty often when describing his way of managing

On Tuesday (yesterday), I had an all day meeting in Boston with the top leadership team

And again, that word came up a lot

And it got me to thinking, “How TRUE to myself am I everyday?

How authentic am I being around my colleagues, friends, family, clients?

And, “Is that adding or removing stress from my day-to-day life?”

When you’re not being your authentic self, you are not fooling anyone but yourself

The joke is really on you

Why? Because you’re the one suffering. You’re the one stressing and you don’t even realize why

You don’t recognize the cause because you’ve been acting for so long!

We were brought up to believe we have to act a certain way to please people around us

We have to say, look, and act a certain way to be loved, to FEEL loved

We get caught up in what Miguel Ruiz from “The Four Agreements” would say, in our own “hell”

Yes, those are harsh words to describe where MOST of us are living today

(I don’t care how much money you have, how successful you are. Your mansion isn’t bringing you true happiness)

Think about the last time you didn’t care ONCE in an entire day of what someone thought of you?

Man, I don’t even think I can say I lived a day without worrying about it at least once

And that’s after being AWARE of my own “HELL”

You LIVE to please others and forget to please yourself.

And the sickening part is we think that’s normal!

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After reading “The Four Agreements”, it brought a lot of things to light for me

Its made me more aware of my day-to-day actions that led to unhappiness

And it is molding me back to my five-year old self

Remember when you were five?

Did you care what anyone thought?

You were FREE, genuinely happy, didn’t listen to other’s opinions of you because you believed in your own

You were your true AUTHENTIC self

I know what you are thinking

“Talita, I was five. I didn’t have a job or a single worry in the World. How can I come to that same happiness now?”

WELL, Mr. or Ms. reader, you are absolutely right!

Life today versus life when you and I were 5 has DRASTICALLY changed

However, that happiness and being authentic to self is still very much attainable!

I am living proof that my happiness rate has RAISED to a different level after I understood “The Four Agreements

Don’t believe me?

Please pick up the book and read it

Find out more about this small tease I just wrote

I want you to understand why life is so difficult for you today

And how you CAN turn it around by simply changing FOUR things.

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Thank you Ellie Active Wear for this inspiration through our brief email exchange

And guys, please check out Ellie Active Wear for your monthly box of gym-wear goodies!

Above is an example of May’s Box which were alternate items to promote everyone’s uniqueness

It comes with 5 workout items every month

This month, I got an arm phone holder, stress balls, those ridiculously amazing leggings, sports bra & shirt

Guess for how much?!

ONLY $49.95 a month

And you can cancel or skip any month!

As you all know, fitness is a huge passion of mine. But staying motivated is hard, even for me!

A cute box full of amazing gym goodies will get any girl excited to show their new gym-wear off 😉

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Find them on Instagram: @EllieActiveWear

Or check out their site HERE.

Til next time my loves!

xx

T

Best practices to get you hyped up for 2017: Look of the week!

HAPPY NEW YEAR, YOU GUYS! 🙂

I can’t even begin to share my excitement for ALL of us

We have 365 days to do whatever it is we set ourselves out to do

However, as much as I love the concept of thinking of the entire year ahead of us to reach our goals

There’s nothing like taking it one day at a time

Don’t you think?

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“Patience & persistence” are my two focus words this year

Or as Ry would say, “your two peas (p’s)” haha!

I need to always go back to them when I get discouraged

So I’m writing them down in my room’s white board as an everyday reminder

 I feel I always reach more of my goals when I think of them more often

And that’s one way I found has worked best for me in 2016

What are you doing this year to keep yourself accountable for your goals?

Another best practice is planning out your week on a Sunday

That’s one best practice I didn’t do in 2016. And that I am almost 100% sure would’ve made ALL THE DIFFERENCE

The saying,“If you don’t plan to succeed, you plan to fail” is beyond true!

If I had a consistent gym schedule,and meal schedule planned out- I’d be in better shape today

I could sit here and beat myself up for it and be upset

(I kind of already did do all that)

But I should just take it as a lesson learned and not repeat the same mistake again!

LASTLY, this year will be the year I use my cell phone THE LEAST!

I plan to use my cell the least amount of time as possible, mostly just to blog and make important calls.

Cell phones are the reason relationships are failing, friends aren’t communicating and ideas are not being born

I want to let my mind wander, I want to listen more, to live more, to love more.

I’ve already started this rule with a few friends

I went out with two of my girlfriends and we didn’t have our cell phones on us

We had the BEST conversations with zero distractions and were able to fully enjoy each other’s company

I also did that with Ryan this weekend and we had the best weekend talking about everything imaginable

It was truly wonderful to be in the moment with the people I love

When was the last time you were truly present?

It’s sad to think of all the people sitting at a dinner table with their family/friends, texting someone who’s not there

It’s sad to think of how our generation has changed (for the worst when it comes to self-confidence & happiness)

But it takes one person to make this world a better place

And I hope this gets you inspired to do the same!

LET’S MAKE A DIFFERENCE TOGETHER

Oh and if you like this look…

CLICK HERE to check out this maxi asymmetric skirt

Belt & shoes from Love Culture.

I am so excited to share so much more with you guys this year!

Stay tuned

And thank you again for all the love and support 🙂

-Talita

Breast Augmentation Part II: The Aftermath, ups and downs

Since I’ve started my blog back a year ago, my top post has been “Sleeping Positions After Breast Augmentation

And because I’m getting readers from literally all over the world looking for answers, I figured let’s talk about it

(P.S. Thank you to all my readers for your love and support. You guys keep me motivated!)

🙂

Breast Augmentation Part II

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It will be a year this January since I’ve gotten my breast augmentation done

Some girls actually celebrate that shit. I’m not about that life LOL

Although, I’m not throwing a party for my babies. I must say, it was THE BEST DECISION I’ve ever made

So if you are in the fence about it, try to think about WHY?

When I first thought about getting it done- here are some things that stopped me:

People I was dating at the time (didn’t like their experiences with past “fake boobs”)

Let me clarify the above:

A LOT has changed with surgeries today- if you want them NATURAL, you can get them natural. They will feel natural, bounce around like yours do, if yours is saggy now, they will be saggy then- only bigger. And if you want them fake looking (Pamela Anderson version), then you can get those too!

Just make sure you go to the right surgeon, someone with 20+ years of experience with track record to prove it.

My doctor was Dr. Jeffrey Darrow, he was absolutely fantastic.

He has the experience, education and track record. Feel free to look him up if you are in Boston!

He asked me many questions to make sure I would be 100% happy when everything was “said and done,” and in addition, Ryan and I spent HOURS looking at girls with my height, weight, and boob size (prior to surgery and post surgery) to figure out how it would look on me. It was at times, super nerve wrecking.

But research is needed in order for you to choose what is right for you!

I was also afraid I’d lose sensitivity but it’s so rare to happen. And thankfully, it didn’t.

The procedure itself was super smooth and quick (1 hour and a half tops?).

The recovery period is 1 week, yes one week before you’re back to work with your babes!

But during that one week, you will need someone around to help you out.

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They don’t start looking 100% natural until I would say at least 3-6 months in.

(depending on the person)

I’d ask your doctor, as it also depends which surgery you’ll choose to do (under boobs, through the nipples, or arm pit).

I was told through the nipples is a no-no, that’s when you are more likely to lose sensitivity.

I did under the boobs, it was the best decision as the cut fades so much, you can hardly see it. And it’s the one likely to heal better and look more natural. Again, consult with your doctor as this was my experience.

Sleeping Positions from MY experience, the first 3 months you need to be very careful.

Sleep upright or on your sides with a sports bra on- don’t go to bed in your birthday suit haha!

At least not for a while.

At the same time, if you are not sleeping well in those positions, you need to consult with your doctor as sleep is a big factor for the healing process.

I now sleep in any position I wish. I honestly have certain positions that are needed for me to fall asleep, otherwise I won’t. So I can’t do without them. But my boobs feel 100% healed.

Keep in mind, it will still feel super weird sleeping with them. Before, I’d sleep on my belly and I wouldn’t really feel any discomfort, but now I do a little because I have these big boobs that are in the way haha!

Also, keep in mind, bathing suit shopping will be SUPER tough depending on the size you choose. Mine is impossible. I literally had the hardest time this summer. And lingerie, don’t get me started. It will have to be all Victoria’s Secret. And I was fortunate to find a great store in Italy, where they have super sexy lingerie in my size. And it’s actually affordable (win win).

Comment below if you’d like suggestions on stores for a future post and I can talk more about that.

Also, dresses you normally can pull off with no bras? Say goodbye to all of them.

You won’t be able to pull it off anymore.

Those are all things you must consider prior to surgery.

I knew most of these things but not to the extent that I know now.

Do I regret it? Absolutely not.

I’d do it again and again and again.

And maybe, I’d even go bigger.

haha!

But I’m tiny so that’d probably not be the best decision.

Keep in mind though,

When in DOUBT, go bigger.

Never smaller.

No one ever regrets going big 😉

Your Doctor will always suggest a “moderate” size. I was suggested to go 2 sizes smaller, and I would’ve hated it.

I want it to be noticeable!

I understand not everyone will feel the same way.

I have friends that wanted no one to notice.

So they went just a size up.

I like drama when it comes to my image. I’m exotic and bold, so I wanted my boobs to match my personality.

And to be honest, at work its super unnoticeable. It depends on what you wear.

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One last tip- don’t worry about “the noise” and don’t look for approval.

Do what makes YOU happy.

People will hate all day or they will support you but you will NEVER make everyone happy.

And that should not matter anyway. Because the only person who needs to be happy is YOU.

And loving your body is the best thing in the world.

If it’s something that only surgery can do for you, I support 100%.

Boobs won’t grow by working out but your butt will, for example.

There are some things we have no control of and others we have full control of. 😉

Any questions, please comment below and I’ll be happy to answer them! 🙂 xx

-Talita