“Dear you, make peace with the mirror and watch your reflection change.“
Today, I would like to talk about body image.
The way we see ourselves in the mirror every morning/night has a lot to do with our mental state
Many women today are influenced by their definition of what’s “beautiful” by social media, and life influences..
Once upon a time, in the 90’s, “heroine chic” was in, anyone that looked skinny AF was attractive
So if you didn’t have the “heroine chic” look, you starved yourself everyday or binge ate and purge to “fit in.”
But heroine chic all of a sudden wasn’t attractive anymore. That fever was FINITO.
To be perceived as “attractive” you now had to have curves.
And all those girls now started eating more, under-going surgeries to get curves they didn’t have, or committed suicide because they didn’t see a way they could fit in with society anymore.
I don’t think I need to explain here why this is sickening
I also don’t need to explain that the world’s view of what’s attractive will not always be the same as today’s’, it will continue to change- as it has throughout the years.
But for some reason, girls aren’t seeing the whole picture and men are buying into the fake girls on Instagram
We are all idolizing the wrong things and the end result, most are not happy with what they have
The girls think what they see on the internet is real or if they know it’s fake, a lot of times they can’t afford it
The guys see these chicks online everyday and feel like that’s what every girl needs to look like or they’re all set
I’ve personally been told I don’t look good enough because this guy I was dating years ago was obsessed with checking out these Instagram girls /reality tv shows with girls who looked far from real and he eventually forgot what he originally liked about me. I was no longer viewed as “pretty” or “beautiful” next to those girls.
Oh and since, he hasn’t found this “ideal girl” he had in his mind
It’s honestly sickening how much we’ve all become so self-absorbed on what’s outside
So much so that most of us forget to work on what’s inside
I love running into girls that work on themselves, girls that care about things greater than themselves
Girls that work on their souls, minds, mental health & well-being
Those are the type of girls that offer substance & VALUE to their friendships and relationships
Ultimately, when we stop obsessing over ourselves is when we find fulfillment and happiness
We don’t even think about being depressed because we are so aware of what is going on in the World
So many people have never seen SHOWERS or apartments in their lives
We have EVERYTHING and yet we complain that life isn’t great because our butt isn’t big enough
One day, we will look back and wish we could have put our time to better use
Only when we realize and focus on what TRULY matters, is when we will start living a life far from ordinary
Only when we stop focusing on material things and start helping others is when we will find true happiness.
Now I get asked all the time if I am a bit too obsessed with fitness and if that goes against what I preach
Here’s my answer to those wondering:
I work on self-development every single day but part of living a long healthy life to me is taking care of myself
I don’t think it’s wrong to feel good mentally & physically, as long as you are doing it for YOU and not for approval
I’ve come a long way when it comes to doing things for me and not for others. And I am proud to say I am in a great place where I found a balance between the two that is not obsessive.
And yes, I feel it’s crucial for all of us to find our own balances
As I always say, “DO YOU, BLOCK THE NOISE, DRINK CHAMPAGNE.“
Sometimes less is more. In this case, the less you care about what others think of you, the more pleasure you will find in living. Be you, be authentic, and make a difference.