Read this if you are discouraged by your results in the gym

Hey babes

Turns out I won’t be able to write a blog post daily like I wanted to =\

I got promoted to this very self-driven, challenging, awesome job last year and it’s taking me a while to adjust

I really want to mostly focus my energy on learning everything I can in the next three months

And because it’s been so stressful, I figured why not add a picture of me in Venice, Italy from last year 🙂

It’s always great practice when you’re going through a stressful time, to look back at something you are grateful for

Specially, something you were able to do because of why you’re stressed

(ex. because of my job, I can afford a trip to Italy)

Anyway,

Today I wanted to drop a quick reminder that it’s YOUR journey!

I think we all need this reminder sometimes

I see and follow so many amazing fitness models or fitness bloggers

They look perfect, but we can’t forget we are looking at the “finished” project

We also can’t forget what they have sacrificed to get there…

Pizza nights, wine, ice cream, pasta and much more!

I’ll be the first to admit it, I’m the first to complain and wonder why I don’t look a certain way

I tell myself, “You workout so much! You should be there by now. This is pointless!”

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve said EXACTLY that

And then, I remind myself of the entire pizza I had to myself the week before

The “cheat day” not “cheat meal” I had ‘that other weekend’

I mean, how can I say I’m doing everything right?

I’m NOT fully invested if that’s what’s happening, and neither are you

It sucks to hear it but we need to hear the truth to start getting in the right track!

I’ve started eating 100% healthy, and hitting my macros not even a month ago

Before that, I was killing myself at the gym

But guess what?

I wasn’t getting the results I wanted

What you eat is 80% of your results

So FIRST, stop the pity party you are throwing yourself (have self compassion)

TWO, re-evaluate what you have eaten or start a food diary of what you eat everyday

THREE, start over again!

YES! Start over but this time, be wiser

We fall and we get back up again

We don’t give up on our dreams

We only live once and if we’re lucky, we live a full life

And guess what?

A big part of that is how we treat our bodies.

KITCHEN FIRST, GYM SECOND. 

You got this! 😉

Please feel free to email me (tali@fearordinary.com) if you are not sure how to go about your diet

 Or text me if you know my number!

I’ll be happy to stir you in the right direction 

We’re in this together!

xx Talita

COACHELLA: READ THIS IF YOU WANT TO GO FOR FREE!

Happy Friday, babes!

If you’re reading this, I’m guessing you want to attend Coachella 2017

So do I, girlfriend!

Imagine getting free tickets for you and a friend, including stay and airfare!?

Umm..where do I sign up?!?

Here’s how you can enter for a chance to win:

Get the “SHEIN” app

Follow them on Instagram

Comment with your app’s nickname

Repost with #SHEINCOACHELLA, tag the friend you’d bring and @sheinofficial !

I’m sharing this contest because out of all my collaborations,  SHEIN has been one of my favorites!

Their clothes are so trendy and fun

So when they told me about this contest, I had to share with my babes!

I couldn’t be selfish about it

(I posted mine on my fb page already)

haha!

You can repost either on fb or ig, but make sure you are not private. Otherwise, they can’t verify!

GAHH! If you win, please let me know!

I’d love to know I was a small reason why =*

Good luck!!

xx Talita

The Importance of finding TRUE happiness: “The Happiness Project”

Hey babes!

On Instagram earlier today, I talked about the importance of finding true happiness

And how reading the book, “The Happiness Project” by Gretchen Rubin,  made me look at happiness in a different light

You might be wondering, “What does that have to do with fitness?”

Well, I don’t know about you but I don’t see unhappy/unmotivated people working out at my gym

Or if I do, they are hardly ever there

This is why mental health is so important in the journey of a healthy lifestyle

For example, to fully recover from a great workout, you must get a good night of sleep

But if you are stressed, you most likely won’t and that will interrupt your journey to a healthier you

So let’s start with a simple solution that author Gretchen Rubin came up with

12 Commandments of Happiness

So here goes nothing, I’ll start!

  1. Don’t be too hard on yourself
  2. Be Patient with work and the gym. Nothing happens overnight
  3. Name 1 thing you are grateful for everyday
  4. In hard times, thank God
  5. In good times, thank God
  6. Meditate daily (15 mins min)
  7. Go to church on Sundays
  8. Live in the present, BE present
  9. Make one person smile everyday
  10. Put your phone away when out with friends and family
  11. Surround yourself and give time to those that uplift you and make you better
  12. Take risks you normally wouldn’t out of fear

 

In the book, Gretchen started her own commandments to live by

And anytime she didn’t follow them, she reminded herself about them and tried to be better

She did it until she had all her commandments memorized and lived vigorously by them

She mentions how her relationship with her husband improved, her relationship with her kids and friends, as well

And overall, she lived a happier, more fulfilled life because of these little reminders

The book, of course, is a lot more than just these 12 commandments

And I’d highly recommend anyone to read it

But I thought I’d share this one little side note with my fellow friends on here

Because I truly believe, this will make a difference in my life and yours

And help us live everyday, a happier life.

P.S. CLICK HERE for a direct link to the book.

xx Talita

Is it possible to lose muscle after a week or two of not working out?

Today I had one of those days that I’m sure you’ve all been through

After working out consistently, and trying to eat healthy- my daily routine had to be on hold last week

I got two wisdom teeth removed and I was in pretty bad shape for a while

I still forced myself to go to the gym on “day 2” but it wasn’t as intense

Actually, as I type this, I still have a headache from a week ago when I had the oral surgery

And I’m still taking HEAVY meds to fall asleep without pain

(it’s been a super rough week trying to work and workout with the same energy as I normally have)

Anyway, I woke up super bummed that I’ve been “slacking” for a week

They say after 3 days of not working out you start losing muscles

(Click here for a study that shows you can lose up to 80% of muscle in as little as 2 weeks)

I’m not new to exercising but I am new to strength training, so a week definitely did it

I noticed a huge body change when looking in the mirror today =\

I honestly couldn’t have felt more discouraged if I tried

You put in so many hours and so much effort for a week to ruin it?

That’s just not fair. I didn’t choose to have oral surgery, I had to.

______________

I wanted to share this with you guys because this is reality

Even the most driven/motivating fitness models get discouraged

Even them will from time to time look in the mirror and not be pleased with what they see

It’s called being human

Or it’s also called shit happens.

So if you feel that way

Let yourself feel

Maybe give yourself a day off

But then get back at it like a hungry lion/lioness !

Go so hard that you crush every record in your book

Every day you will look slightly different, it’s normal

But this fitness mission we are in is not impossible

A week off or not, the important winning factor is NOT TO GIVE UP

Don’t let your mind fool ya!

It wants you to think it’s not possible. You’re not capable

Fuck those thoughts! 

It is possible and you are capable. And you WILL prove it!

xx Talita

Fitness Goals: My Fit Before 30 Journey and how you can benefit

Holy macaroni, it’s been a while you guys!

Since my last post, so much has changed in my life

I’m no longer focusing on fashion primarily but more so on fitness/wellness

While I enjoy fashion, and find it to be something I’m passionate about. It’s not my “first love”

My “first love” is fitness

But just like any “first love,” it has disappointed me many times, left me feeling lost and with no sense of direction

See, I’ve been on this fitness journey of mine since High School

I remember, when the first Gold’s Gym in my area opened. I was the first to sign up

I’m not exaggerating either! The gym wasn’t even done yet and I walked in to sign up

haha!

However, little did I know that fitness is not that simple

It’s not, “oh I love you dear one” and it replies by saying “I love you too” and you live happily toned ever after

You don’t just sign up and go play guessing games everyday for an hour

You HAVE to know what you are doing

And that takes research, following the right people, reading, and so on

No wonder I’ve never seen results before!

Have you also been working out for years and seen no results?

Girl, then this is what my site will be about

I’ll be recording my do’s and don’t’s. My mistakes will not be your mistakes!

I’ll share my diet as I’m cutting for the first time

And I’ve already started sharing my workouts on Instagram: Fear_Ordinary

I’m really excited to be able to share this so very important journey with you guys

I think most people struggle to feel confident and sexy

As a woman, there’s nothing worse than feeling anything less than the beautiful person you are

We like to say it’s what’s inside that counts. But it doesn’t hurt to look good on the outside, as well 😉

Am I right?! 😉

Stay tuned for more very soon!

xx Talita