Look of the week: Older, yes. Desperate, never.

So the other day I woke up and realized, “holy mac & cheese, I’m 29 years old

Almost two months later, it finally sunk in

Twenty-nine is my last year in my twenties!

Looking back in my teens, I had envisioned my late twenties so differently

Anyone else ever feel this way?

99% of my friends are where I always thought I needed to be at my age

I think a lot of women feel the same way as I do, which is why I’m writing about it

It’s scary not knowing the future or living a very different life than everybody else

But it doesn’t mean it’s wrong or that you are in the wrong path

Once I stopped to think of where I am in my life right now

I realized it’s exactly where I need to be

We are programmed to follow what society wants us to do

And we are taught from a young age that it’s what’s expected of us

Here’s why I think freaking out about age is only going to lead you to the wrong path:

You will get desperate

Desperate women fall for anything & everything

Therefore, settling for the next worst thing

And then having to live with the consequences

I don’t know about you but I rather wait and be with someone who truly makes me happy.

Worrying in general sucks. I hate worrying, and trust me, I worry about enough things that I shouldn’t.

This isn’t one of them (surprisingly enough)

I’ll give you one good reason why I don’t:

I decided to put my happiness first

I am where I am because it’s a choice I made

I chose to wait until I was ready. I chose to find my own happiness first. I chose to lead, not follow.

And it’s liberating!

You can choose those same things if that’s what your heart desires

There is nothing worse than “doing it” just to do it (insert ANY example here)

It never ends well.

In 2017,

I choose to worry less in general.

My biggest resolution for 2016 was to live in the moment and I think I could’ve done a better job at it

My past still very much haunts me. I choose to let it go, all the horrible things, I choose to let them go.

I also need to be less harsh on myself

Life is too short to beat yourself up for everything. I choose to be kind to myself.

I also choose to wear more leather! 😉

See how I worded my list this year?

Saying you choose to do something is a lot more powerful than saying you will try to..

Your brain captures everything you say, so be very careful on how you word things, even thoughts.

I have tested myself all last week on how positive/negative my thoughts are

And when they went to negative, I fought with my mind until it was all positive

It takes work, you win some battles and you lose some.

I’ve lost some this weekend but I also won many last week.

Stay persistent

You don’t get a do-over in life

Work on being as happy as you can be.

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LEATHER PANTS

ONE PIECE LACE UP

xx

Talita

“Feathers are reminders that angels are always near.”

As the holidays are near, I always think of those no longer around to celebrate these happy times with me

Not in a sad way, per say

But in a, “wonder what it’s like to celebrate next to the “big guy” kind of way”

Call me crazy, but I believe there’s a God

It brings me comfort knowing good people are in a good place

And maybe, even looking after us from “up there”

Like our own special angels 🙂

Talking about the holidays! What are you all wearing for these upcoming ones?!

I’m wearing this beautiful feather dress by LazyCaturday

 They have some pretty phenomenal collections, very worth checking out for that special occasion coming up!

They also carry a lot of casual looks, if you lean more towards the casual side.

This specific dress I’m wearing is one of their TOP sellers

The feathers have a beautiful green color that shines, and the off shoulder velvet top is so FESTIVE & fun!

It’s a fashionista’s dream come true!

I know I share a lot of international companies.

LAZYCATURDAY, however, is based in the U.S 🙂

(P.S. you can also find them on IG: “lazycaturday1”)

Which is pretty sweet 😉

This dress arrived in just a couple of days to me. Which was LIFE SAVING, as I needed a Christmas dress BADLY.

CLICK HERE for more details on this emerald feather dress!

I paired it with tights and a nice pair of black heels.

I also added my gold watch from Marc Jacobs (I call it my holiday watch because it’s so sparkly) and a cute bracelet

The best accessory you can wear though is definitely a killer smile 😉

So don’t leave it at home this weekend!

I hope you guys enjoyed this holiday look

And even more so, that you enjoy the holidays with your loved ones!

And thank you Lazycaturday for sending me this beauty! 🙂

xoxo

-Talita

Breast Augmentation Part II: The Aftermath, ups and downs

Since I’ve started my blog back a year ago, my top post has been “Sleeping Positions After Breast Augmentation

And because I’m getting readers from literally all over the world looking for answers, I figured let’s talk about it

(P.S. Thank you to all my readers for your love and support. You guys keep me motivated!)

🙂

Breast Augmentation Part II

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It will be a year this January since I’ve gotten my breast augmentation done

Some girls actually celebrate that shit. I’m not about that life LOL

Although, I’m not throwing a party for my babies. I must say, it was THE BEST DECISION I’ve ever made

So if you are in the fence about it, try to think about WHY?

When I first thought about getting it done- here are some things that stopped me:

People I was dating at the time (didn’t like their experiences with past “fake boobs”)

Let me clarify the above:

A LOT has changed with surgeries today- if you want them NATURAL, you can get them natural. They will feel natural, bounce around like yours do, if yours is saggy now, they will be saggy then- only bigger. And if you want them fake looking (Pamela Anderson version), then you can get those too!

Just make sure you go to the right surgeon, someone with 20+ years of experience with track record to prove it.

My doctor was Dr. Jeffrey Darrow, he was absolutely fantastic.

He has the experience, education and track record. Feel free to look him up if you are in Boston!

He asked me many questions to make sure I would be 100% happy when everything was “said and done,” and in addition, Ryan and I spent HOURS looking at girls with my height, weight, and boob size (prior to surgery and post surgery) to figure out how it would look on me. It was at times, super nerve wrecking.

But research is needed in order for you to choose what is right for you!

I was also afraid I’d lose sensitivity but it’s so rare to happen. And thankfully, it didn’t.

The procedure itself was super smooth and quick (1 hour and a half tops?).

The recovery period is 1 week, yes one week before you’re back to work with your babes!

But during that one week, you will need someone around to help you out.

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They don’t start looking 100% natural until I would say at least 3-6 months in.

(depending on the person)

I’d ask your doctor, as it also depends which surgery you’ll choose to do (under boobs, through the nipples, or arm pit).

I was told through the nipples is a no-no, that’s when you are more likely to lose sensitivity.

I did under the boobs, it was the best decision as the cut fades so much, you can hardly see it. And it’s the one likely to heal better and look more natural. Again, consult with your doctor as this was my experience.

Sleeping Positions from MY experience, the first 3 months you need to be very careful.

Sleep upright or on your sides with a sports bra on- don’t go to bed in your birthday suit haha!

At least not for a while.

At the same time, if you are not sleeping well in those positions, you need to consult with your doctor as sleep is a big factor for the healing process.

I now sleep in any position I wish. I honestly have certain positions that are needed for me to fall asleep, otherwise I won’t. So I can’t do without them. But my boobs feel 100% healed.

Keep in mind, it will still feel super weird sleeping with them. Before, I’d sleep on my belly and I wouldn’t really feel any discomfort, but now I do a little because I have these big boobs that are in the way haha!

Also, keep in mind, bathing suit shopping will be SUPER tough depending on the size you choose. Mine is impossible. I literally had the hardest time this summer. And lingerie, don’t get me started. It will have to be all Victoria’s Secret. And I was fortunate to find a great store in Italy, where they have super sexy lingerie in my size. And it’s actually affordable (win win).

Comment below if you’d like suggestions on stores for a future post and I can talk more about that.

Also, dresses you normally can pull off with no bras? Say goodbye to all of them.

You won’t be able to pull it off anymore.

Those are all things you must consider prior to surgery.

I knew most of these things but not to the extent that I know now.

Do I regret it? Absolutely not.

I’d do it again and again and again.

And maybe, I’d even go bigger.

haha!

But I’m tiny so that’d probably not be the best decision.

Keep in mind though,

When in DOUBT, go bigger.

Never smaller.

No one ever regrets going big 😉

Your Doctor will always suggest a “moderate” size. I was suggested to go 2 sizes smaller, and I would’ve hated it.

I want it to be noticeable!

I understand not everyone will feel the same way.

I have friends that wanted no one to notice.

So they went just a size up.

I like drama when it comes to my image. I’m exotic and bold, so I wanted my boobs to match my personality.

And to be honest, at work its super unnoticeable. It depends on what you wear.

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One last tip- don’t worry about “the noise” and don’t look for approval.

Do what makes YOU happy.

People will hate all day or they will support you but you will NEVER make everyone happy.

And that should not matter anyway. Because the only person who needs to be happy is YOU.

And loving your body is the best thing in the world.

If it’s something that only surgery can do for you, I support 100%.

Boobs won’t grow by working out but your butt will, for example.

There are some things we have no control of and others we have full control of. 😉

Any questions, please comment below and I’ll be happy to answer them! 🙂 xx

-Talita

How to let go of 2016 and start fresh-Beyonce Style

How do we LET GO of 2016 baggage and start fresh?!

Let’s start by saying…

BOY, BYE!

(insert Beyonce’s “bye face” here)

I think so many of us feel the same way about this year

The Universe must have had a lot of negative energy all throughout to send us back all these challenges

But here we are- the good thing about a “bad year” or a “bad day” is our chances of making it are almost 100%

Unless, a bad day was you getting hit by a bus and dying

That would suck ROYALLY.

But hopefully, if you are reading this- you have made it through the hard times & you didn’t get hit by a bus?! (WINNING!)

CONGRATULATIONS!

haha!

Seriously though!

Congratulations for going through a bunch of shit and getting through it

It’s not easy and you are NOT alone.

Give yourself the credit you deserve!

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Here are some things I do to stay positive during hard times:

Grateful list

Example of my current list:

This week I’m grateful for my health- it allows me to workout and do the things I love. After meeting with the salon lady that mentioned her struggles with breast cancer this year. I feel very fortunate to have my health.

True friends- I talked to my girlfriend for a whole hour on the phone the other night and I’m not even a phone person. I love that I have true friends that make the time to call me and check in with me. That’s old fashioned shit right there and I appreciate the effort and love.

Boyfriend- after a crazy year of many life changes (career change, body change, vehicle change(s), and unexpected changes & struggles) he stood by my side and supported me like the amazing, incredible person that he is. I couldn’t have asked for a better person to share another year with and I feel so blessed and grateful for his presence in my life. Gahh, I’m more in love with him than ever. And I can’t wait to spend another year by his side.

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I’ll keep the above list at 3 but you get my point. You automatically feel better after writing down about your week and the things you are grateful for.

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Motivational White Board

I have a white board in my room with self-love reminders to myself.

After reading over 10 books of living a positive/happy/fulfilled life- the self-love reminder stuck with me the most

I think we all need to remind ourselves of our awesomeness

 Example of my board:

Words to say everyday- I am…

(write 5 things you are OR need to believe you are on the board)

“Beautiful, caring, loving, hard-working, deserving of all good things the Universe has to offer”

Those things are important to remember!!

Send positive signs to the Universe and the Universe will return positive things back to you

You will start to believe that you are deserving! Because well, you are!

I found the white board VERY crucial for me this year

In the beginning, I remember reading it every morning and tears would run down my face because I didn’t believe it

I didn’t believe I was all those wonderful things, I didn’t believe I was deserving

And now I read it and I smile. 🙂

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Surround yourself with POSITIVE/MOTIVATING/LIKE-MINDED PEOPLE

Ahh- sooooo damnn crucial this one.

I’m still working on it!

This is specially tough because maybe you have those people in your life already but maybe you don’t

What happens when you have negative, Debbie downers, complainers in your life?

They’ll bring you down with them. And THAT ISN’T GOOD!

Sounds harsh? Well, it is but it’s true!

And how do you go about finding people that think and see life the same way as you do?

Or better yet, someone that has already accomplished so much due to their approach on life (a mentor, possibly)

If you surround yourself with successful people, you are bound to be successful

Same goes for positive, motivating, funny, whatever qualities you are seeking or seeking more of.

So attend that networking event, approach someone at work you admire or message that long lost friend

This is YOUR life! You don’t get to do it twice!!

At least not that I know about

LOL

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GIVE BACK!

Giving back is not only for the wealthy.

There are many ways to give back without spending a dime.

You can volunteer somewhere you are passionate about

You can write a letter to someone in need of your support or spend a day with someone that needs your company

You can adopt an animal or care for one for the weekend

All these things and many more can help bring meaning to your life and help you find yourself.

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It’s easy to think back to 2016 and say, “I DIDN’T DESERVE ALL THE CRAP THAT WENT ON!

It’s hard to look back and say, “Ok, xyz happened.. what did I learn from it? Or how could I have avoided that situation? What will I do going forward to make things better for myself? Do I blame the bird for the poop or is it myself I have to blame (for the poop?)” WORST ANALOGY, EVER! HAHAHAHAH

Those are hard things to evaluate. Because it will make you feel like shit, facing the honest truth sometimes is hard!

I’ll give you guys an example of one of my shitty situations in 2016:

I bought a car from a “so called friend” that would “never do me wrong.”

The car cost me over 5k to fix and still kept breaking on me.

It’s caused me headaches and sleepless nights- and to top it off, I found out it had a salvage tittle when trying to get rid of the piece of shit.

I went back and the same guy screwed me over again, and again, and again.

Three times to be exact!

Worst experience car shopping of my entire life- not to mention the amount of disappointment, stress and so on that came with it.

I can sit here and say, it’s HIS FAULT. He is a heartless/ lying son of a gun that only thinks about money, and saw an opportunity to take advantage of me because I don’t know much about cars.

OK- maybe I did think that at first and maybe it is true. But you know what else is true?

I should’ve done more research on the dealership, in the car, I should’ve asked more questions and not jumped into buying it so fast. I shouldn’t have trusted him solely because he said he wasn’t going to screw me over. That was terrible judgement from my part.

Although, now I know a lot- back then, I didn’t. And I placed my trust in the wrong person. It’s really my mistake.

Going forward, will I ever jump into buying a car again? FUCK NO.

Going forward will I trust someone just because I believe in the human race? Absolutely not.

Going forward will I buy from the piece of shit asshole again? Guy, please!

I’ve learned my lesson the hard way.

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You want a better year 2017?

Start putting the above into practice.

Let go of all things after writing them down, letting them out by venting with a friend or a therapist.

OUT with the old, IN with the new.

DEEP BREATH.

Positive thoughts

And wiser approaches!

2017

We are ready for you!