Life Without Social Media For A Month

Last November, I deactivated my Facebook. I thought I was temporarily plugging off like I do every year around the holidays. But I was in for quite the realization.

At first, it’s always tough not being able to log in. I’d forget I deactivated my page and would click on my FB phone app to try and log in at least 3x a day (3x a day!!!). Your mind gets used to that useless information and constant nonsense feeding your brain on a daily. So I decided to delete the app (step 1).

A week passed by, and I started forgetting about it. I started slowly but surely focusing on the things I wanted to feed my brain with more & the things I wanted to work on a bit more (step 2). But my time was still dedicated to social media. I still had Instagram. 

Instagram kept me VERY busy. I love pictures, so I would post from 1-3 pictures a day. And of course, it doesn’t stop there. You go back and check your comments, likes, and so on. I was back to zero again. I spent hours wasting time on Instagram. I would wake up and check Instagram first thing. It was sickening and time-wasting. I needed to cut IG out and fully focus my energy on a better lifestyle. It was time.

I had 14k followers, and my followers from IG were my primary source to my blog. It wasn’t an easy decision to make but I wasn’t happy being unproductive. I also found myself comparing my lifestyle to others and it didn’t feel great. Now I knew what I had to do! If I wanted that lifestyle, if I wanted a life change, I needed to get my butt out there and work for it. Not sit on my phone feeling sorry for myself.

A month ago, I deactivated IG. And boy was it hard! The withdrawals were bad and I almost activated it back a few times. But I am glad I didn’t.

Since last month, I can’t stress enough how my life has changed for the better. I am happier, a lot more focused. I work out almost daily now, I read everyday, I finally signed up to volunteer for the next 6 months, I updated my résumé. I am a better Manager/Leader/Coach/friend.

 Not being on social media has given me back TIME, and time is PRICELESS. 

Will I be back to IG or FB one day? Possibly! But I am committed to making this year the best year yet. I am committed to continue improving my lifestyle. And inspire others to do the same! When and IF I do go back, I want to go back to show others how my life has changed and how theirs can, too.  Wish me luck! Until then, some snaps and blog posts will do =)

 

xox- Until Next Time

-T

Genuine Friendships a.k.a Squad Goals

As you get older, it gets easier and easier to figure out who your real & fake friends are. We all have both, and if you think you don’t- you are in EXTREME denial.

The toughest thing about realizing and separating true friendships from fake friendships is that those you need to cut out of your life have most likely been in it for a long time.

I recently been taken back by how obvious certain “friends” in my life just don’t fit in it anymore. Have you ever sat back and noticed that you don’t belong in that type of friendship anymore? I certainly have.

At this point in my life, I don’t have time to sit around and talk about stupid shit for hours. I seriously get anxious. It’s time-wasting, it’s lowering my IQ. I could be home reading a book, writing a blog or working out. I could think of a million things I’d rather do than sit around with people who have nothing good to offer.

I also hate gossip. If you are my age, High School is long behind you. Also, if you don’t like something, say it to my face. I absolutely despise “friends” that talk shit behind your back. And guess what? It’s pretty obvious. So if you are one of those friends, just face the person you want to talk shit about and let them know how you really feel. Real friends tell it how it is to your face. Own it.

I’ve always been a fun, positive, self-motivating person. And once I saw that fading away is when I realized I needed to make some serious changes.

You should hang out with people who bring out the best in you, not ones that make you write a blog post about whom not to hang out with. haha! I am obviously making some serious changes and being extremely picky at those I choose to spend time with. I need friends that want the best for me, as I want the best for them. Friends that have big dreams and are willing to work hard for them, like I am. Friends that don’t have time to judge others, as they are too busy worried about their own lives and making their dreams come true. Positive, upbeat, motivating people who will add extreme value to my life. Call me selfish, but I from now on will not tolerate negativity in my life. I, from now on will have a squad that “goals” are made out of. Genuine, loving, fun, hardworking, caring people. Why? Because I never ask for what I can’t offer in return.

Spring cleaning is around the corner. Choose your friends wisely, as they are the biggest influences in your personality and life. With that being said, I also want to say I have some of the most amazing friends that I forever see in my life that bring out the best in me. Shout out to my ladies, you know who you are=*)

 

 

-Sunday night thoughts-

xox-Until Next Time

-T