Hello November

Hello November!

My favorite month of the year, my birthday month 😉

I think I might have overdone it this year.

But then again, I don’t believe in “overdoing” birthdays

I also don’t believe in counting Thanksgiving calories 😉 haha!

On that note, have you thought about what you are grateful for this year?

I’m grateful for a new chance to start over after taking a risk

I’m thankful for taking a risk and learning so much about myself

I’m thankful for my family and friends

I’m also thankful for comfy clothes and purple shampoo.

But let’s talk about this month’s box from Ellie

I mean, I have not taken this outfit off- it’s so freaking comfortable

And I have slept in that white shirt many nights

Once you touch it, you will understand. The material is SO SOFT!

But this month, we also got this cozy wrap that is SO versatile.

It’s so freaking soft too, and way too freaking fashionable for the gym

Like no, I’m wearing this out to brunch instead.
 And of course, this super adorable pair of leggings is also included.

SO, there you have it!

Ellie’s November’s box

CLICK HERE to see how you can subscribe for YOUR monthly surprise!

Thank you for stopping by & Happy Thanksgiving!

xx

Talita

 

Wine Riot: Review

If you have Facebook, you have probably seen “Wine Riot” pop up in your news feed at some point this Fall

Wine tasting is always a good idea in my book. I mean, how can you go wrong? You can’t.

But Wine Riot certainly took it to the next level last weekend

I have to thank this gorgeous lady below– for bringing up the idea to go so we can FINALLY meet in person

(It’s pretty cool when you meet like-minded girl bosses in your area that aren’t afraid to reach out)

More on that later! 😉

What to expect at Wine Riot:

I tried endless amounts of wines, champagne (bubbly bar), and snacks (think humus, crackers, cheese)

In addition, they also had photo booths, and tattoo booths for all to enjoy

(above is proof that we were not ashamed to put on a cowboy hat, heart-shaped shades & try everythang) haha

You definitely get what you pay for at Wine Riot

And whether you are meeting a new friend for the first time, going on a first or 50th date- it’s guaranteed fun

(Below is a pic of Ry and I on our 50th date) 😉 haha

But let’s get to what we all really want to know:

My top 3 picks from all the wines I got to try last weekend (thank you for voting on Instagram!)

#1: Moscato by Doktor Mango (they have other flavors, too)

I’m buying it right now because this Moscato is a must-have.

 Prima Perla Prosecco DOC (Treviso) balances the taste out if you don’t like it too sweet

Great brunch drink for your Sundaze

They are distributed in MA, NH, RI, CT, NY, ME, and VT

You can find their site here: www.fxmagner.com

 

 

#2 Pick: Lolea

If you like sangria, Lolea is your brand. They have anything from least traditional to most traditional

Their sangria are made with all-natural ingredients

The first one I tried was their white wine with elderberry flowers and wild apples

All three were delicious, I couldn’t pick just one

Take a peak HERE

You can find them at Whole Foods Markets, Kappy’s, and many other Boston area retailers

 

#3: Wine Trees: Rose

“Mad House Wife Sweet Pink”

Fresh watermelon and strawberry balanced with a crisp finish

Super nom! Wine Trees also deliver wine to your door. They have many options to choose from, your pick!

Take a peak: WineTrees

I felt the need to share this review and my top picks because I always have a hard time finding the “right” wine

And my bar lacks some yummy selections for when I have guests over 🙂

I hope you enjoyed this post and found it helpful!

Yours truly,

Talita

 

World Mental Health Day: My story

Today is World Mental Health Day

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Did you know 1 in 5 Adults have a mental health condition?

Youth health is also worsening, and 80% of them are left with no or insufficient treatment

When I was about eleven years old, I moved to the U.S. with my parents and six-year-old brother

We moved here with nothing but the clothes we had on

Everything and everyone we knew were a 12 hour flight away

We also didn’t speak the language or know much about this new culture

My dad’s third cousin which he had never met, helped us by giving us shelter at her place for three months

In those three months, she made our lives living hell.

She wouldn’t let us look out the window or leave the house

She’d say we would get deported back home if we stepped outside

We had a VISA to stay at the time but didn’t know any better

This was a new world for us, and the most vulnerable we’ve ever been

Then, my parents finally found a place to rent and found a job

That was when I was left alone to take care of my six-year-old brother for the first time in my life

Soon I started having anxiety and panic attacks

I remember feeling my heart beating so fast I thought it was going to explode

I felt like I was going to die

I can’t explain the awful feeling I felt many nights a week and how many calls my mom had to take from me

My poor mom had to talk me out of a panic attack every call

Until finally, it started to not be so bad

But I still deal with anxiety to this day. And thanks to my amazing mom’s support, I no longer have panic attacks

The reason I’m sharing this is because I’m not ashamed to be human

And neither should you be

Talk about it with a loved one today or write about it, if you are still not 100% “there”

But get it out of your system

Look for help.

I hesitated to see someone for so long, and there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that

I believe that even those that have no issues or think they don’t, SHOULD still see someone

We can all improve our mental health, no matter what state it is in

Most of us had some sort of traumatic event happen in our lives

Whether it was a death in the family, a huge lifestyle change like mine, a bad break up, you name it!

It’s almost impossible to go through life without a scar

But scars are what make us beautiful, they make us human, they make us who we are

And it’s only once we own up to them, that we can move forward to live a beautiful life

I hope you found some comfort in my story

Feel free to email me directly to share yours at tali@fearordinary.com, or comment below

You are not alone.

Yours Truly,

Talita

 

“Don’t fear fear-face it”

Today, I’m devastated

I don’t think anything has hit me as close to home as much as the Vegas shooting

I’ll be at that hotel celebrating my birthday this year

I also lost my godmother today

I know this is a site to show how to live a happy life

But read on and maybe this will help a little

I feel the need to speak up today because I feel so sad

I feel sad to live in a world I’m scared to explore

I feel saddened today because God created this perfect world for us

And we continue to destroy it

We destroy it with pollution, we destroy it by killing animals, we destroy it by killing each other

There is so much hatred, so much hatred in this world

Why is there such little love? Is it because people don’t understand what they are living for anymore?

Or is it because faith has become extinct?

I often wonder if I’m the “silly one” or the intelligent one for believing in God

But it’s because of my belief that I feel like my life has meaning

It’s because of my belief that I treat my body like a temple

It’s because of my belief that I forgive easier and love harder

I try to give back more, even if it’s just a simple smile to someone who is having a bad day

I try to have more compassion towards others

I see everyone as equals

Now, I know I’m not perfect

But today, I’m trying to make sense of why there is so much evil in this world

Today, I’m trying to make sense for others’ actions

I wonder if things will ever change for the better or if they will only get worse for our future generation

Today, I fear for our future

Don’t you?

I fear that even talking about love, hope, fear, and compassion will be looked down upon

I fear that bringing up religion will offend someone because everyone gets offended by everything

I fear that people have truly started to lose hope

Have we lost hope?

I hope not.

You are here for a reason, you were born to make a difference in this world

You have a unique skill that nobody else has

You just have to believe in the power of good, of doing good for others, of believing in yourself

I believe it takes one person to change the world

One person that understands you don’t have to be rich to make a difference

One person that understands sometimes a hug can transform someone’s day/week/month/year

People want to feel like they belong

They want to feel accepted

They want to feel like they matter

Don’t be shy, say”hi” to a stranger tomorrow, smile, give someone a hug when introducing yourself

It’s honestly the greatest feeling in the world. Let’s not lose sight of what it is to be human.

Be Human.

Don’t fear fear- face it.

 

Yours Truly,

Talita

Fall Look 2017: Raw

                     

Hi there babes!

Holy shit, it’s been a minute- I want to apologize for the inconsistency with the blog

I took a good chunk of time off to figure out how I can be my true-raw-self and deliver only quality stuff

So for the time being, I will not be working with any clothing companies unless I already buy from them

I want everyone to see how they can still get creative with the stuff in their closet, by mixing and matching

Or by simply buying one new piece, instead of a whole new outfit for a night.

We’ll start with this outfit I’m wearing.

Shoes and shades are from Marshalls, less than $40 combined.

I love Marshalls because you never know what kind of gem you will find there.

Also note, location is key with this store. Each location carries something different (go to a fancy town near you).

Okay, but maybe you are truly interested in this off-shoulder bodysuit (if you’re my friend, you are tired of seeing it)

I got this baby at Forever21 ! >>Here’s a link<< to an off-shoulder look they have

I bought mine in the store and can’t find it online. However, they have many other beautiful ones to choose from.

P.S. This jacket is also from there. I’ve had it for YEARS and every time I wear it, I get compliments on it.

Now let’s talk sexy pencil skirt because every woman should own one

I got this beauty at Charlotte Russe. And lucky for you, I found it and it’s on SALE for $16!

CLICK HERE to check this amazing deal out.

All my life, I’ve dealt with snobby as* btchs that would lie about where they got their outfits from

So I LOVE to be able to share my fashion “secrets” with you

The secret is, there is NONE (at least not with me!).

I like to look good and stack cash, no “bloody shoes” needed. But thanks Nicki Minaj.

P.S.S. I can’t write this without sharing a little personal note. My godmother passed away today.

I’m extremely saddened by it and by what happened in Vegas yesterday. Truly devastating.

I hope everyone truly sees life as a gift because tomorrow certainly isn’t promised

Be safe out there and don’t forget to be grateful for waking up to live another day.

 

Yours Truly,

Talita

Dress like Kylie: SHEIN wish list

Let me start by saying I’m not a Kylie fan

However, I know many of you guys are

And so, I wanted to share an affordable way to dress just like Kylie (according to her latest episode)

We’ll start with my fave- this rib knit lettuce edge crop bardot top

She wore it when getting ready to travel to Boston (in black)

Get yours for less than $10, just CLICK HERE.

I love this knit top because of the delicate details, super feminine

I picked this bodycon dress because she always chooses unique, but super TIGHT to the body dresses to wear

Hence the one she wore at MET gala

You can too steal the show by wearing this dress out for less than $20! CLICK HERE for details

My third pick are these comfy pair of stripe side drawstring pants

When not getting glam, there is no better way to go. Kylie is notorious for wearing these types of sweats

If you got the booty, loose pants will still look sexy af on you-also for less than $20

CLICK HERE FOR MORE

And then, of course- we have the infamous ripped jeans

If you’re not wearing ripped jeans, you are just not in with the times

And guess what, for less than $20 you have no excuse

CLICK HERE for details

 

These are my “Dress like Kylie” picks from http://www.shein.com

Check them out for more!

 

xx

T

EllieActiveWear: August Box & more!

Okay-MAJOR NEWNESS going on today and a VERY exciting one, too!

As some of you ladies who follow me know, I’m an Ellie Active Wear girl fan!

I love their monthly box subscription and how they never cheat you with lame stuff you’ll never wear

They’re bomb!

But I also understand that not everyone can afford the $49.95 a month for the five items

So, why am I smiling?

I’m smiling because starting this month of August, Ellie is now offering a THREE package subscription!

You heard it right! THREE.

What this means is you get the leggings, crop top and shirt.

But not (example on this month’s box: Toning band and core discs)

And instead of paying $49.95, your subscription will go down to $39.95!

For my fitness girls that are not big on working out at home, this might fit your lifestyle better!

P.S. This is for existing or new subscribers.

Oh and by the way, this month’s outfit kind of rocks. I’ll take the white BMW, too. THX!!

But real talk- I never felt so out of shape.

School and work has been taking up all my time. I was talking to my girlfriend today who’s also a blogger

And she gave me a few tips on how to organize my life better

Long story short, I’m buying a planner from Amazon after writing this post

LOL!

P.S. This is the shirt that comes with the crop top and leggings this month.

It kind of opens a bit in the back, so you can show off your booty LOL

I secretly wanted this style for a while but I’m too lazy to actually search for it nowadays, let alone go to the mall

So YAY to Ellie for making my day today!

So if you’ve been on the fence, CLICK HERE to find what package works best for YOU.

I personally love my ab roller, toning band, and core discs. Mainly, because my workouts will be mostly at home

My gym days will be rare with the little time I’ll have

With that being said, stay tuned for my home workouts on my Instagram page 🙂

Filming them will keep me accountable and hopefully get you guys inspired to try something new.

I’ll start posting once a week!

Hope you ladies enjoyed the news this week! 😉

xx T

 

 

 

 

 

Less is more: Shop Smart

Raise your hand if you like to shop!

*hands and feet in the air*

Lately, however, I’ve been very cautious with my money

I feel it’s 10x more important to have cash in the bank than to wear a brand name

This weekend, I was talking to a girlfriend of mine about it

We both went out to eat at Papagayo (Assembly Row) and then decided to check out some stores

We didn’t really make it to store #2

Mainly because we are so used to shopping online

Who has the time and patience to wait in line, look for that specific dress or shirt out of the 100 other items?

It’s just a huge waste of time

The dress below took me 10 minutes to find. It was night time, I was in my pjs ready for bed…

Not to mention I paid PEANUTS for it!

Click HERE for the link, if you want to check it out for yourself 🙂

The material isn’t the greatest, to be very honest. But the dress looks INCREDIBLE on and is SUPER in.

For the money you are paying to purchase it, it’s a great buy

It’s also playful and fun, but the color is what got me

If you have a nice tan, this color is crazy flattering

I got a size M, and it fits like a glove. I found it to be true to size

Also, be ready to iron it- it will need it 🙂

Moral of the story: You don’t need to pay a million bucks to look and feel like a million bucks

Don’t fall for what you see online. Girls often wear expensive things to feel better about themselves

If you are confident, you don’t need to make big purchases to feel beautiful. You know you already are!

Besides, what’s truly important is what’s within.

Too many beautiful girls have a terrible personality. And that can only get them so far.

Be kind, be genuine, work on being your best version- the rest will follow.

 

If you missed the link above, CLICK HERE to check out details on this dress.

 

Have a wonderful week!

xx

T

Viale Cambridge

Summer in Boston is pretty amazing

You get to fully explore this beautiful city, its restaurants, lounges, shops, parks and so forth

However, we often forget of the surrounding cities of Boston

Many of which are full of incredible history and fun activities for ALL!

One of my ALL.TIME.FAVORITE is Cambridge

Cambridge is basically a city that turned into a lifestyle

To know what I mean, you need to see for yourself

But just as a small hint: You want to sit with them.

It’s no surprise that once I was approached to check out Viale (Ingredient-driven italian restaurant)

I couldn’t say no.

And of course, I had to tell you all about it

The staff there are A+! Shout out to David (Viale’s Chef). David, you are BEYOND talented in the kitchen

I mean, guys, check out this amazing CALAMARI PIZZA

(yes, I capitalized it- it’s freaking important!)

How did I never hear there was such thing as a CALAMARI PIZZA in this world?!

I’d say just this pizza alone is a reason for you to check Viale out.

I’m also big into noticing GF (gluten-free) options

Two of my friends have celiac disease, so when we go out- we look for a GF friendly spot

I was pleased to find how Viale had some pretty yummy GF options, such as this chocolate brownie dessert

If you like chocolate, brownie, and ice cream- you will absolute ADORE this treat

Shout out to Viale for thinking of my girlfriends & everyone out there with celiac disease. 

But for those that aren’t too crazy about calamari, pizza, chocolate, brownie and ice cream (umm.. who ARE you!?)

Kidding, but not really

Viale’s menu is pretty much for all

Take for instance their $1 oysters, three specialty drinks, and seafood heaven salads

Umm hi, if you live in Cambridge- I think I found your after work spot. Thank me later!

Although, those drinks sound super appealing. I’m more of a “rose all day” type of basic

I’m not really sorry or ashamed. It’s basic, but it’s delicious

And Viale got me covered 😉

I can go on forever here. But I just wanted to leave a taste in your mouth, for now…

If you are in the area, or from Boston trying to find a new spot- I highly suggest this gem in the heart of Cambridge

It’s also next to some super awesome nightlife bars/lounges, so you can make a night out of it!

P.S. No need to dress up here. It’s Cambridge, everyone is “too cool to care.” I loved it!

 

Hope you enjoyed this quick read!

CLICK HERE to check out their sweet website 🙂

Body Image: How to overcome it

Dear you, make peace with the mirror and watch your reflection change.

 

Today, I would like to talk about body image.

The way we see ourselves in the mirror every morning/night has a lot to do with our mental state

Many women today are influenced by their definition of what’s “beautiful” by social media, and life influences..

Once upon a time, in the 90’s, “heroine chic” was in, anyone that looked skinny AF was attractive

So if you didn’t have the “heroine chic” look, you starved yourself everyday or binge ate and purge to “fit in.”

But heroine chic all of a sudden wasn’t attractive anymore. That fever was FINITO.

To be perceived as “attractive” you now had to have curves.

And all those girls now started eating more, under-going surgeries to get curves they didn’t have, or committed suicide because they didn’t see a way they could fit in with society anymore.

I don’t think I need to explain here why this is sickening

I also don’t need to explain that the world’s view of what’s attractive will not always be the same as today’s’, it will continue to change- as it has throughout the years.

But for some reason, girls aren’t seeing the whole picture and men are buying into the fake girls on Instagram

We are all idolizing the wrong things and the end result, most are not happy with what they have

The girls think what they see on the internet is real or if they know it’s fake, a lot of times they can’t afford it

The guys see these chicks online everyday and feel like that’s what every girl needs to look like or they’re all set

I’ve personally been told I don’t look good enough because this guy I was dating years ago was obsessed with checking out these Instagram girls /reality tv shows with girls who looked far from real and he eventually forgot what he originally liked about me. I was no longer viewed as “pretty” or “beautiful” next to those girls.

Oh and since, he hasn’t found this “ideal girl” he had in his mind

It’s honestly sickening how much we’ve all become so self-absorbed on what’s outside

So much so that most of us forget to work on what’s inside

I love running into girls that work on themselves, girls that care about things greater than themselves

Girls that work on their souls, minds, mental health & well-being

Those are the type of girls that offer substance & VALUE to their friendships and relationships

Ultimately, when we stop obsessing over ourselves is when we find fulfillment and happiness

We don’t even think about being depressed because we are so aware of what is going on in the World

So many people have never seen SHOWERS or apartments in their lives

We have EVERYTHING and yet we complain that life isn’t great because our butt isn’t big enough

One day, we will look back and wish we could have put our time to better use

Only when we realize and focus on what TRULY matters, is when we will start living a life far from ordinary

Only when we stop focusing on material things and start helping others is when we will find true happiness.

Now I get asked all the time if I am a bit too obsessed with fitness and if that goes against what I preach

Here’s my answer to those wondering:

I work on self-development every single day but part of living a long healthy life to me is taking care of myself

I don’t think it’s wrong to feel good mentally & physically, as long as you are doing it for YOU and not for approval

I’ve come a long way when it comes to doing things for me and not for others. And I am proud to say I am in a great place where I found a balance between the two that is not obsessive.

And yes, I feel it’s crucial for all of us to find our own balances

As I always say, “DO YOU, BLOCK THE NOISE, DRINK CHAMPAGNE.

Sometimes less is more. In this case, the less you care about what others think of you, the more pleasure you will find in living. Be you, be authentic, and make a difference.

P.S. If you like what I’m wearing, >>CLICK HERE<< to get more info!

 

I hope you ladies found this subject helpful!

Please share your experiences or thoughts if you have any 🙂

xx

T