Engagement Photo Ideas?

Engagement photo ideas, or maybe just an excuse to share ours =)

Huge thanks to my super talented mom for taking these pics & dealing with us

Also, a big thank you to my fiancé because this is every guys’ worse nightmare

Full disclosure: I wish we had a glass or 5 of wine prior. But it was worth it!

 

Positive Mind, Positive Life: Turn your week around

Positive mind, positive life!

How to turn your week around with one simple step:

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This week, focus your energy on the daily positives

So many people choose to focus only on the daily negatives

They take ONE negative experience, and feed off of it for the day

Nothing” can make their day better now

Oh, and it’s Monday! “Of course it’s a bad day!”

Can you think of at least one person that plays that role in your life?

We all know at least one. And sometimes, we fall for their trap, too.

But how can we not let ourselves join in their misery?

How can we not let our minds be controlled by a negative day?

First and foremost, we must understand bad habits die hard

This won’t be an easy habit to trick our minds with

And just like everything else, practice makes perfect.

With that being said…

Here’s an easy practice for you to utilize when having a bad day/week/month:

 

  1.  Think of something negative that happened to you recently. Bad day at work, a nasty client, fight with a significant other, your favorite team lost..

Now think of a positive that came out of it. I’ll give you my positive of the day.

My negative: Bad day at work

My positive(s): I helped many customers today.

I have a job that I enjoy most days.

Opportunities: Not let it consume my energy next time.

 

This exercise will help you debrief your day, better your mental health, and deal with problems differently the next time around.

It’s simple and effective.

Life is short. Invest your energy on positive people and experiences

Learn from the negatives, and live your best life!

Positive mind, positive life.

Want more tips? Click here

-Tali

 

 

 

Bring light to dark times

“BRING LIGHT TO DARK TIMES”

So, it’s been such a long time since I’ve last written on my blog

Being a writer of positive messages, I had too many negative events happen and felt ashamed of not being able to find a “positive platform” to share with you all.

I’ve been struggling to stay positive every day for the last three months

But then, I found something. Something that has helped me so much

It’s only been 36 days since I started but I have noticed some great changes

I started meditating

Meditating has helped me more than I could ever imagine

I wake up at 6:30 am every morning just to have enough time to meditate before work

Anyone that knows me, understands sleep would always come first for me

Not anymore.

What comes first for me is mental clarity and peace now

I feel like I found a constant in a life that’s always changing

I also started being consistent in other areas of my life (I won’t bore you with details)

It’s been such a positive for me

Of course, I’m not walking around saying I’m Buddha quite yet

But I feel pretty great

If you are looking for a platform to find balance again, be more self-aware, more grateful and positive

Try “Headspace”

It’s an app that you can try out meditation for free

And it’s what I now use every day

Start out with the “basics” for 30 days and then pick whatever you want to improve on

“Anxiety, self-esteem, stress” and so on…

I hope this helps bring light to dark moments you encounter in your life

And remember, dark moments don’t define you, they simply make you stronger

XO,

Talita

 

 

What is Black Mirror?

What is “Black Mirror”?

I watch t.v maybe 3 hours a week, two shows max and I’m hooked on this series!

This show speaks to our generation about the problems we are facing

Specifically, technology/social media.

We live in a generation where our “worth” is calculated by the number of “likes” we get on our pictures, and statuses.

We have turned ourselves into slaves of technology.

We spend most of our time online, completely “checked out” from reality, living someone else’s life. Why? Only to escape ours.

Some of us are willing to buy fake followers and likes JUST to feel valued as human beings! When is enough enough?

Black Mirror now has four seasons. Each episode is different and extremely intriguing. It’s sure to get your mind thinking.

I think it’s a “must-see” for a few reasons:

  • We are essentially forgetting what a real connection is and what it feels like
  • We can’t sit with someone for more than five minutes without checking our phones, maybe less than five if God forbid the phone buzzes during dinner
  • We look up to people we never met, instead of real people we interact with
  • Relationships are being RUINED by a virtual world
  • Our attention span has shortened because we aren’t fully invested in the “now.”

The list goes on…

We’ve never been so “off,” so robotic, so disconnected

Years from now, we will look back and wonder why we wasted so much time not living

If we don’t change, we will become known as “the generation of regrets.”

I hope this series helps people understand the consequences of their actions

I hope they start “disconnecting” so they can finally connect.

I hope we all stop existing, and start living.

 

-Talita

 

 

New Years Resolution 2018: How to accomplish your goals

New Years Resolution 2018

 Every year, most of us come up with a list of goals we want to accomplish

But many of us never follow through

So how do we make sure 2018 is different?

What keeps us from accomplishing our goals?

Are our goals too unrealistic?

Last year, my goal was to get in shape before 30

I give myself a C- for trying

A+ for meal prepping all year round

F for planning my workouts

D for consistency

This year, I’m not adding anything new to the plan

I’m simply accomplishing what I couldn’t last year

And I’m doing it by noting what went wrong.

Ex: I meal prepped every week. But ate whatever I wanted on weekends.

So this year, I will plan my weekends better.

As far as consistency, I know with school & work.. I can’t overwhelm myself

Therefore, I will work out on Saturdays, Sundays, and twice during the week

Knowing this will help me gain control over my week (less anxiety)

In order for your resolution to be successful, you must know why it failed to begin with!

You must understand the things you need to work on

And finally, put a plan in place to make sure you don’t make the same mistakes

It’s honestly THAT easy!

Be realistic and honest with yourself this year

Don’t add new goals to an existing list, unless you’ve reached all your 2017 goals

Lastly, don’t be too hard on yourself about last year’s goals

With everything we do, there is a lesson learned

This year, you are wiser and better prepared

Believe in yourself, and go after it!

-Talita

Red Carpet N.Y.E event: Boston

RED CARPET N.Y.E EVENT

New Years is JUST around the corner!

I’m not going to lie, every year it gets harder to find a great spot to celebrate

As I get older, I’m all about socializing with interesting/fun people

And this year, I FINALLY found the perfect event to do just that!

This New Years event will be hosted by Miss Massachusetts

But what I love the most about this particular event is how it will not only

be a great celebratory event for entrepreneurs in Boston. But it will also be

a great opportunity to mingle with some of Boston’s most prominent leaders.

I’m talking a broad amount of industries, from tech, to philanthropy, to social

good. Many non-profits leaders use this event to attend with their donors.

As well as, their supporters– to celebrate the amazing milestones they achieved.

This year, they will have a Red Carpet Black Tie event for New Years Eve.

And they will have some of Boston’s TOP entrepreneurs in the Fashion industry

This event will be curated with a “James Bond” theme

The theme will highlight the synergy between that iconic brand & the evening.

Oh, and because you follow my blog–

You get a special discount by clicking the link below!

The 10th Annual Timeless Black Tie Party

I hope to see you all there 🙂

-Talita

Tips to control anxiety

Tips to control anxiety

 

It’s CLEARLY “that” time of the year again

The time we have a million gifts to buy and 100 parties to attend

Not to mention, our day-to-day activities (gym, work, school)

It’s no wonder my anxiety level went 0 to 100 real quick!

Balance is key for me, but extremely hard to find this time of the year

Can you relate?

So, with 2018 around the corner… (I can’t believe it either)

I decided to worry only about what I CAN control

With anxiety, I had to break it down by asking myself some hard questions:

“Why do I get stressed more so this time of the year than any other month?”

“What activities are causing me stress and why?”

“What can I do to change them? Is it something I can control?”

Reflecting and gathering information helped tremendously

Now I knew what my top 2 causes of stress were

Time management and holiday budget planning

Both my causes of stress were due to lack of planning

Which ultimately funneled down to lack of organization on my end

Planning can be controlled, so I checked these off as something I can work on

So what’s the solution?

2018 Planner from CVS Pharmacy

I actually found the same brand on Amazon for my prime lovers

CLICK HERE for the link

Simple, right?!

This planner has helped me stay in control and not let events control me

Some of you may be thinking, “why not google calendar?”

I’ve tried using phone apps, google calendar, ever note, outlook. You name it!

I found that I’m more engaged when I write things down on paper

I commit to it in writing and I deliver it

The first thing I do in the morning is check my planner

(P.S. Even though it’s “2018,” they have the last few months of the year 2017 included to get you started!)

I check to see how may day is going to go, what to expect, what I need, etc…

It’s just more “real” to me

Just like books, I need to hold a real book in my hand to read

I want to notice the smell of the pages & stack them up in a book shelf

I know not everyone is old-fashioned like me, but I love it!

 

In a world that is getting so advanced in technology, I need to feel more human

And less robotic

I feel it’s important to go back to the basics, sometimes

Like having a full on conversation at a dinner table without checking our phones

Or writing a letter to a friend, just because.

Whenever I look back to when I was younger, that’s what I miss

I don’t think I’ll ever look back and say I miss getting text messages

It’s so effortless, it doesn’t need much thought

I’m super old-school you guys! It’s insane.

But back to anxiety. I hope these tips will help you get control back

Sometimes we feel overwhelmed and think there’s no solution

We make the mistake to assume there is no solution to the problem

Next time your mind tries tricking you, just remember the above steps!

 

Happy Practical Happiness Advice Sunday!

🙂

Talita

The Confidence Gap

Hey guys-

Last week, I finished reading “The Confidence Gap” by Russ Harris

I want to talk about it with you because this book got rid of MANY myths for me

Including the myth that “confidence is something you are born with”

Umm.. say what?!

When I got my first “real” big girl job, I knew NOTHING about it

I walked in my first day scared shitless

Six months later, I walked in like I owned the place

What changed?

I learned, practiced, and took immediate action

Confidence comes AFTER we put in the work, not before

So what does this mean?

Waiting to do something until we “feel confident” makes zero sense

Next time your mind tricks you into thinking that way–acknowledge it

But then tell yourself, “I will only gain confidence by taking action first”

I’ve also learned I act out of emotion a lot

Let me explain…

Let’s say it’s Friday, I had the longest week and feel exhausted

SO naturally, I tell myself I’m too tired to go workout

Well, as much as we all have the right to skip a workout here & there

Making constant excuses out of emotion can be an issue

Since reading this book- my goals are greater than my emotions

I focus on what matters: my values (you will learn your values after reading it)

It’s an amazing feeling to be in control or to know you CAN be

If this sparks your interest- click here

It’s also a great gift to give to someone this holiday season! 🙂

 

xx

Talita

Bucket list of joy

Once upon a time…

The Holidays were the happiest time of the year for me

I think a lot of my readers can relate to a time they felt the same

Every year since I moved to the United States, all I’ve done is feel sorry for myself

Every end of November is a reminder of what I no longer have

A huge family to celebrate the holidays with like I used to growing up.

This year, you could say it’s a bit worse

My mom/best friend won’t be here this year either

She traveled to Brasil to be with her mom, brothers and sisters

But I want to change my mindset this year and challenge you to do the same

We can’t change what’s changed (pun-intended)

HOWEVER, we CAN start new traditions

Start new traditions to look forward to that fit your CURRENT life

Because everyone deserves to feel joy this time of the year!

So here are some new traditions I will start this year

Let’s call it my Holiday Bucket List of Joy:

  • Try a holiday baking recipe every year!
  • Go to at least ONE holiday party that a friend throws (no exceptions!)
  • Donate to a homeless shelter or volunteer
  • Invite TWO people in your life to see one Christmas movie at the theaters
  • Wear Christmas PJ’S on Christmas morning or Christmas Eve
  • Go to Mass and thank God for all your blessings (at least once)

YES! So the plan is to have this list on my fridge as a daily reminder

And also, so I can check it off as I complete my traditions.

Obviously, yours may be different than mine

Or you may like what I have.

Either way, I hope this year- you transform your thinking and find joy.

(above pictures from Legacy Place in Dedham)

Great shopping plaza 😉

xx

Talita

 

Mount Washington Hotel Review

Mount Washington Hotel

Let me just start by saying, WOW.

There really is no other word to describe the experience Ryan and I had there

But let me take a step back and tell you right off the bat, this isn’t a paid post

I genuinely enjoyed my stay there and wanted to share my experience with you

I’ve also stopped taking “paid” collaborations since I got back into blogging

I only collaborate with companies I’d recommend regardless of a collaboration

I want this to be a reliable place for my readers, as trust in blogging is decreasing

BUT, don’t take my word for it. I also got pictures to prove it 😉YES, you guys. Pictures don’t even do it justice

I couldn’t stop looking at the endless views, every angle I looked

Not to mention, this getaway to the mountains was a NECESSITY 

Ever just want to escape the city for a couple of nights and get your mind right?

But what’s a girl to do at Mount Washington Hotel?

WELL, I am GLAD you asked!

They have a variety of restaurants/bars/buffet/games/heated outdoor pool/Jacuzzi

As well as, indoor pool and Jacuzzi

They host an event every night, and have donuts or sugar cookies in the morning

FREE of charge. I kid you not.

Did I mention, views?

It’s honestly humbling.

But the real reason I wanted to write a post was because of their staff

I know how hard it is to get the right team to work in a gigantic resort like such

And I was WOWED every single time by their staff

They were so courteous, friendly, helpful, and cheerful

I felt like I was in a Hallmark movie for the weekend

They made Ryan and I feel like we were in a different planet

I’ll give you an example:

When we first arrived, they asked us what we were there for

Ryan said we were there to celebrate my birthday (hence the big gold balloons)

Haha

And later that night, we got a knock on our door. “Room service!

This nice woman was outside holding two delicious cupcakes

Two cupcakes with a happy birthday sign on them

It was the cutest thing.

I honestly didn’t want to leave and can’t wait to go back again.

SO, if you are trying to surprise your loved one with a weekend getaway

Or escape from reality for a bit

I highly recommend you check out Mount Washington Hotel

Lastly, a big shout out to the best boyfriend on this planet for planning this out!

xx

Talita