Tips to control anxiety

Tips to control anxiety

 

It’s CLEARLY “that” time of the year again

The time we have a million gifts to buy and 100 parties to attend

Not to mention, our day-to-day activities (gym, work, school)

It’s no wonder my anxiety level went 0 to 100 real quick!

Balance is key for me, but extremely hard to find this time of the year

Can you relate?

So, with 2018 around the corner… (I can’t believe it either)

I decided to worry only about what I CAN control

With anxiety, I had to break it down by asking myself some hard questions:

“Why do I get stressed more so this time of the year than any other month?”

“What activities are causing me stress and why?”

“What can I do to change them? Is it something I can control?”

Reflecting and gathering information helped tremendously

Now I knew what my top 2 causes of stress were

Time management and holiday budget planning

Both my causes of stress were due to lack of planning

Which ultimately funneled down to lack of organization on my end

Planning can be controlled, so I checked these off as something I can work on

So what’s the solution?

2018 Planner from CVS Pharmacy

I actually found the same brand on Amazon for my prime lovers

CLICK HERE for the link

Simple, right?!

This planner has helped me stay in control and not let events control me

Some of you may be thinking, “why not google calendar?”

I’ve tried using phone apps, google calendar, ever note, outlook. You name it!

I found that I’m more engaged when I write things down on paper

I commit to it in writing and I deliver it

The first thing I do in the morning is check my planner

(P.S. Even though it’s “2018,” they have the last few months of the year 2017 included to get you started!)

I check to see how may day is going to go, what to expect, what I need, etc…

It’s just more “real” to me

Just like books, I need to hold a real book in my hand to read

I want to notice the smell of the pages & stack them up in a book shelf

I know not everyone is old-fashioned like me, but I love it!

 

In a world that is getting so advanced in technology, I need to feel more human

And less robotic

I feel it’s important to go back to the basics, sometimes

Like having a full on conversation at a dinner table without checking our phones

Or writing a letter to a friend, just because.

Whenever I look back to when I was younger, that’s what I miss

I don’t think I’ll ever look back and say I miss getting text messages

It’s so effortless, it doesn’t need much thought

I’m super old-school you guys! It’s insane.

But back to anxiety. I hope these tips will help you get control back

Sometimes we feel overwhelmed and think there’s no solution

We make the mistake to assume there is no solution to the problem

Next time your mind tries tricking you, just remember the above steps!

 

Happy Practical Happiness Advice Sunday!

🙂

Talita

The Confidence Gap

Hey guys-

Last week, I finished reading “The Confidence Gap” by Russ Harris

I want to talk about it with you because this book got rid of MANY myths for me

Including the myth that “confidence is something you are born with”

Umm.. say what?!

When I got my first “real” big girl job, I knew NOTHING about it

I walked in my first day scared shitless

Six months later, I walked in like I owned the place

What changed?

I learned, practiced, and took immediate action

Confidence comes AFTER we put in the work, not before

So what does this mean?

Waiting to do something until we “feel confident” makes zero sense

Next time your mind tricks you into thinking that way–acknowledge it

But then tell yourself, “I will only gain confidence by taking action first”

I’ve also learned I act out of emotion a lot

Let me explain…

Let’s say it’s Friday, I had the longest week and feel exhausted

SO naturally, I tell myself I’m too tired to go workout

Well, as much as we all have the right to skip a workout here & there

Making constant excuses out of emotion can be an issue

Since reading this book- my goals are greater than my emotions

I focus on what matters: my values (you will learn your values after reading it)

It’s an amazing feeling to be in control or to know you CAN be

If this sparks your interest- click here

It’s also a great gift to give to someone this holiday season! 🙂

 

xx

Talita

Bucket list of joy

Once upon a time…

The Holidays were the happiest time of the year for me

I think a lot of my readers can relate to a time they felt the same

Every year since I moved to the United States, all I’ve done is feel sorry for myself

Every end of November is a reminder of what I no longer have

A huge family to celebrate the holidays with like I used to growing up.

This year, you could say it’s a bit worse

My mom/best friend won’t be here this year either

She traveled to Brasil to be with her mom, brothers and sisters

But I want to change my mindset this year and challenge you to do the same

We can’t change what’s changed (pun-intended)

HOWEVER, we CAN start new traditions

Start new traditions to look forward to that fit your CURRENT life

Because everyone deserves to feel joy this time of the year!

So here are some new traditions I will start this year

Let’s call it my Holiday Bucket List of Joy:

  • Try a holiday baking recipe every year!
  • Go to at least ONE holiday party that a friend throws (no exceptions!)
  • Donate to a homeless shelter or volunteer
  • Invite TWO people in your life to see one Christmas movie at the theaters
  • Wear Christmas PJ’S on Christmas morning or Christmas Eve
  • Go to Mass and thank God for all your blessings (at least once)

YES! So the plan is to have this list on my fridge as a daily reminder

And also, so I can check it off as I complete my traditions.

Obviously, yours may be different than mine

Or you may like what I have.

Either way, I hope this year- you transform your thinking and find joy.

(above pictures from Legacy Place in Dedham)

Great shopping plaza 😉

xx

Talita

 

Mount Washington Hotel Review

Mount Washington Hotel

Let me just start by saying, WOW.

There really is no other word to describe the experience Ryan and I had there

But let me take a step back and tell you right off the bat, this isn’t a paid post

I genuinely enjoyed my stay there and wanted to share my experience with you

I’ve also stopped taking “paid” collaborations since I got back into blogging

I only collaborate with companies I’d recommend regardless of a collaboration

I want this to be a reliable place for my readers, as trust in blogging is decreasing

BUT, don’t take my word for it. I also got pictures to prove it 😉YES, you guys. Pictures don’t even do it justice

I couldn’t stop looking at the endless views, every angle I looked

Not to mention, this getaway to the mountains was a NECESSITY 

Ever just want to escape the city for a couple of nights and get your mind right?

But what’s a girl to do at Mount Washington Hotel?

WELL, I am GLAD you asked!

They have a variety of restaurants/bars/buffet/games/heated outdoor pool/Jacuzzi

As well as, indoor pool and Jacuzzi

They host an event every night, and have donuts or sugar cookies in the morning

FREE of charge. I kid you not.

Did I mention, views?

It’s honestly humbling.

But the real reason I wanted to write a post was because of their staff

I know how hard it is to get the right team to work in a gigantic resort like such

And I was WOWED every single time by their staff

They were so courteous, friendly, helpful, and cheerful

I felt like I was in a Hallmark movie for the weekend

They made Ryan and I feel like we were in a different planet

I’ll give you an example:

When we first arrived, they asked us what we were there for

Ryan said we were there to celebrate my birthday (hence the big gold balloons)

Haha

And later that night, we got a knock on our door. “Room service!

This nice woman was outside holding two delicious cupcakes

Two cupcakes with a happy birthday sign on them

It was the cutest thing.

I honestly didn’t want to leave and can’t wait to go back again.

SO, if you are trying to surprise your loved one with a weekend getaway

Or escape from reality for a bit

I highly recommend you check out Mount Washington Hotel

Lastly, a big shout out to the best boyfriend on this planet for planning this out!

xx

Talita

Hello November

Hello November!

My favorite month of the year, my birthday month 😉

I think I might have overdone it this year.

But then again, I don’t believe in “overdoing” birthdays

I also don’t believe in counting Thanksgiving calories 😉 haha!

On that note, have you thought about what you are grateful for this year?

I’m grateful for a new chance to start over after taking a risk

I’m thankful for taking a risk and learning so much about myself

I’m thankful for my family and friends

I’m also thankful for comfy clothes and purple shampoo.

But let’s talk about this month’s box from Ellie

I mean, I have not taken this outfit off- it’s so freaking comfortable

And I have slept in that white shirt many nights

Once you touch it, you will understand. The material is SO SOFT!

But this month, we also got this cozy wrap that is SO versatile.

It’s so freaking soft too, and way too freaking fashionable for the gym

Like no, I’m wearing this out to brunch instead.
 And of course, this super adorable pair of leggings is also included.

SO, there you have it!

Ellie’s November’s box

CLICK HERE to see how you can subscribe for YOUR monthly surprise!

Thank you for stopping by & Happy Thanksgiving!

xx

Talita

 

Wine Riot: Review

If you have Facebook, you have probably seen “Wine Riot” pop up in your news feed at some point this Fall

Wine tasting is always a good idea in my book. I mean, how can you go wrong? You can’t.

But Wine Riot certainly took it to the next level last weekend

I have to thank this gorgeous lady below– for bringing up the idea to go so we can FINALLY meet in person

(It’s pretty cool when you meet like-minded girl bosses in your area that aren’t afraid to reach out)

More on that later! 😉

What to expect at Wine Riot:

I tried endless amounts of wines, champagne (bubbly bar), and snacks (think humus, crackers, cheese)

In addition, they also had photo booths, and tattoo booths for all to enjoy

(above is proof that we were not ashamed to put on a cowboy hat, heart-shaped shades & try everythang) haha

You definitely get what you pay for at Wine Riot

And whether you are meeting a new friend for the first time, going on a first or 50th date- it’s guaranteed fun

(Below is a pic of Ry and I on our 50th date) 😉 haha

But let’s get to what we all really want to know:

My top 3 picks from all the wines I got to try last weekend (thank you for voting on Instagram!)

#1: Moscato by Doktor Mango (they have other flavors, too)

I’m buying it right now because this Moscato is a must-have.

 Prima Perla Prosecco DOC (Treviso) balances the taste out if you don’t like it too sweet

Great brunch drink for your Sundaze

They are distributed in MA, NH, RI, CT, NY, ME, and VT

You can find their site here: www.fxmagner.com

 

 

#2 Pick: Lolea

If you like sangria, Lolea is your brand. They have anything from least traditional to most traditional

Their sangria are made with all-natural ingredients

The first one I tried was their white wine with elderberry flowers and wild apples

All three were delicious, I couldn’t pick just one

Take a peak HERE

You can find them at Whole Foods Markets, Kappy’s, and many other Boston area retailers

 

#3: Wine Trees: Rose

“Mad House Wife Sweet Pink”

Fresh watermelon and strawberry balanced with a crisp finish

Super nom! Wine Trees also deliver wine to your door. They have many options to choose from, your pick!

Take a peak: WineTrees

I felt the need to share this review and my top picks because I always have a hard time finding the “right” wine

And my bar lacks some yummy selections for when I have guests over 🙂

I hope you enjoyed this post and found it helpful!

Yours truly,

Talita

 

World Mental Health Day: My story

Today is World Mental Health Day

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Did you know 1 in 5 Adults have a mental health condition?

Youth health is also worsening, and 80% of them are left with no or insufficient treatment

When I was about eleven years old, I moved to the U.S. with my parents and six-year-old brother

We moved here with nothing but the clothes we had on

Everything and everyone we knew were a 12 hour flight away

We also didn’t speak the language or know much about this new culture

My dad’s third cousin which he had never met, helped us by giving us shelter at her place for three months

In those three months, she made our lives living hell.

She wouldn’t let us look out the window or leave the house

She’d say we would get deported back home if we stepped outside

We had a VISA to stay at the time but didn’t know any better

This was a new world for us, and the most vulnerable we’ve ever been

Then, my parents finally found a place to rent and found a job

That was when I was left alone to take care of my six-year-old brother for the first time in my life

Soon I started having anxiety and panic attacks

I remember feeling my heart beating so fast I thought it was going to explode

I felt like I was going to die

I can’t explain the awful feeling I felt many nights a week and how many calls my mom had to take from me

My poor mom had to talk me out of a panic attack every call

Until finally, it started to not be so bad

But I still deal with anxiety to this day. And thanks to my amazing mom’s support, I no longer have panic attacks

The reason I’m sharing this is because I’m not ashamed to be human

And neither should you be

Talk about it with a loved one today or write about it, if you are still not 100% “there”

But get it out of your system

Look for help.

I hesitated to see someone for so long, and there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with that

I believe that even those that have no issues or think they don’t, SHOULD still see someone

We can all improve our mental health, no matter what state it is in

Most of us had some sort of traumatic event happen in our lives

Whether it was a death in the family, a huge lifestyle change like mine, a bad break up, you name it!

It’s almost impossible to go through life without a scar

But scars are what make us beautiful, they make us human, they make us who we are

And it’s only once we own up to them, that we can move forward to live a beautiful life

I hope you found some comfort in my story

Feel free to email me directly to share yours at tali@fearordinary.com, or comment below

You are not alone.

Yours Truly,

Talita

 

“Don’t fear fear-face it”

Today, I’m devastated

I don’t think anything has hit me as close to home as much as the Vegas shooting

I’ll be at that hotel celebrating my birthday this year

I also lost my godmother today

I know this is a site to show how to live a happy life

But read on and maybe this will help a little

I feel the need to speak up today because I feel so sad

I feel sad to live in a world I’m scared to explore

I feel saddened today because God created this perfect world for us

And we continue to destroy it

We destroy it with pollution, we destroy it by killing animals, we destroy it by killing each other

There is so much hatred, so much hatred in this world

Why is there such little love? Is it because people don’t understand what they are living for anymore?

Or is it because faith has become extinct?

I often wonder if I’m the “silly one” or the intelligent one for believing in God

But it’s because of my belief that I feel like my life has meaning

It’s because of my belief that I treat my body like a temple

It’s because of my belief that I forgive easier and love harder

I try to give back more, even if it’s just a simple smile to someone who is having a bad day

I try to have more compassion towards others

I see everyone as equals

Now, I know I’m not perfect

But today, I’m trying to make sense of why there is so much evil in this world

Today, I’m trying to make sense for others’ actions

I wonder if things will ever change for the better or if they will only get worse for our future generation

Today, I fear for our future

Don’t you?

I fear that even talking about love, hope, fear, and compassion will be looked down upon

I fear that bringing up religion will offend someone because everyone gets offended by everything

I fear that people have truly started to lose hope

Have we lost hope?

I hope not.

You are here for a reason, you were born to make a difference in this world

You have a unique skill that nobody else has

You just have to believe in the power of good, of doing good for others, of believing in yourself

I believe it takes one person to change the world

One person that understands you don’t have to be rich to make a difference

One person that understands sometimes a hug can transform someone’s day/week/month/year

People want to feel like they belong

They want to feel accepted

They want to feel like they matter

Don’t be shy, say”hi” to a stranger tomorrow, smile, give someone a hug when introducing yourself

It’s honestly the greatest feeling in the world. Let’s not lose sight of what it is to be human.

Be Human.

Don’t fear fear- face it.

 

Yours Truly,

Talita

Fall Look 2017: Raw

                     

Hi there babes!

Holy shit, it’s been a minute- I want to apologize for the inconsistency with the blog

I took a good chunk of time off to figure out how I can be my true-raw-self and deliver only quality stuff

So for the time being, I will not be working with any clothing companies unless I already buy from them

I want everyone to see how they can still get creative with the stuff in their closet, by mixing and matching

Or by simply buying one new piece, instead of a whole new outfit for a night.

We’ll start with this outfit I’m wearing.

Shoes and shades are from Marshalls, less than $40 combined.

I love Marshalls because you never know what kind of gem you will find there.

Also note, location is key with this store. Each location carries something different (go to a fancy town near you).

Okay, but maybe you are truly interested in this off-shoulder bodysuit (if you’re my friend, you are tired of seeing it)

I got this baby at Forever21 ! >>Here’s a link<< to an off-shoulder look they have

I bought mine in the store and can’t find it online. However, they have many other beautiful ones to choose from.

P.S. This jacket is also from there. I’ve had it for YEARS and every time I wear it, I get compliments on it.

Now let’s talk sexy pencil skirt because every woman should own one

I got this beauty at Charlotte Russe. And lucky for you, I found it and it’s on SALE for $16!

CLICK HERE to check this amazing deal out.

All my life, I’ve dealt with snobby as* btchs that would lie about where they got their outfits from

So I LOVE to be able to share my fashion “secrets” with you

The secret is, there is NONE (at least not with me!).

I like to look good and stack cash, no “bloody shoes” needed. But thanks Nicki Minaj.

P.S.S. I can’t write this without sharing a little personal note. My godmother passed away today.

I’m extremely saddened by it and by what happened in Vegas yesterday. Truly devastating.

I hope everyone truly sees life as a gift because tomorrow certainly isn’t promised

Be safe out there and don’t forget to be grateful for waking up to live another day.

 

Yours Truly,

Talita

Dress like Kylie: SHEIN wish list

Let me start by saying I’m not a Kylie fan

However, I know many of you guys are

And so, I wanted to share an affordable way to dress just like Kylie (according to her latest episode)

We’ll start with my fave- this rib knit lettuce edge crop bardot top

She wore it when getting ready to travel to Boston (in black)

Get yours for less than $10, just CLICK HERE.

I love this knit top because of the delicate details, super feminine

I picked this bodycon dress because she always chooses unique, but super TIGHT to the body dresses to wear

Hence the one she wore at MET gala

You can too steal the show by wearing this dress out for less than $20! CLICK HERE for details

My third pick are these comfy pair of stripe side drawstring pants

When not getting glam, there is no better way to go. Kylie is notorious for wearing these types of sweats

If you got the booty, loose pants will still look sexy af on you-also for less than $20

CLICK HERE FOR MORE

And then, of course- we have the infamous ripped jeans

If you’re not wearing ripped jeans, you are just not in with the times

And guess what, for less than $20 you have no excuse

CLICK HERE for details

 

These are my “Dress like Kylie” picks from http://www.shein.com

Check them out for more!

 

xx

T